POOR CONFIDENCE
FREE YOURSELF FROM
I
t’s true that the impact of a lack
of confidence on you and the
progression of your life can be huge. It
can spoil your greatest achievements
and what would otherwise be your
happiest moments. In fact, it can even
prevent them from happening. This could
be due to a tendency to put yourself and
everything you do down, so that you don’t
recognise or celebrate your successes. Or
it could be due to you not achieving things
in the first place because your insecurities
interfere with your performance, or because
you don’t even allow yourself to try.
Either way, the importance of confidence
to your life and how it evolves cannot
be underestimated.
A high level of self-confidence on the other
hand, positively impacts on all areas of your
life - at work, study or home and in social
situations. It allows you to be more you, and
to be the best version of you. Imagine the
relief of just knowing that whatever happens
and whatever the outcome you’ll be fine, andDo you hold yourself back because of poor confidence? Do you find you don’t
pursue your goals or achieve all you could because your insecurities hold you back?
Now’s the time to break free, writes Charlotta Hughes
that if you don’t get the results you hoped for
you’ll be able to handle it and find a different
way to get there.
Confident people tend to be more
optimistically minded, which results in them
not only making the most of opportunities
but also in them expecting a positive
outcome, which increases the likelihood
of that outcome materialising. And,
importantly, their confidence allows them to
enjoy the process more. So a real three-way
win: with confidence you take more chances,
enjoy taking them and enjoy more frequent
success! Sounds pretty attractive, doesn’t it?
So the big question is how to achieve this.Self-beliefs
Often this has to involve identifying and
dispelling the beliefs you hold about yourself
and your life. This enables you to take
control of how you feel, giving you the power
to improve things and to enjoy your life
and progress, whether at work, in study
or privately.The beliefs you hold about yourself often
surface as excuses: what we tell ourselves or
believe in for why we have poor confidence.
The fact is that we all, at times, have
excuses for why we don’t feel how we’d like,
or achieve or have the things we’d like, and
the annoying thing with us humans is that
we do whatever it takes to prove ourselves
right. Even if the only person we hurt in the
process is ourselves! You may well be able
to reel off a list of what feels like perfectly
legitimate reasons for why you have, and
perhaps should have, poor confidence.
It may sound confrontational to say that
you’re making excuses, because with an
emotion like confidence your excuses will
feel like real, justifiable reasons. But however
justified you feel you are, if you acknowledge
that these ‘reasons’ are in fact functioning
as excuses you give yourself the opportunity
to tackle them so that you can increase your
confidence. This is not about belittling how
you feel but instead about liberating yourself
from your limiting beliefs.om mind om mind