Your Morning Routine Toolkit192The goal is to grow in our relationship with Jesus and in our
understanding of His Word. Each of us will do that in differ-
ent ways, and it’s important that we understand what will help
us thrive.
Gretchen Rubin, author of Better Than Before, identified
four types of people as it relates to personal growth:
Upholder— accepts rules, whether from outside or inside.
An upholder meets deadlines, follows doctor’s orders, keeps
a New Year’s resolution. [I am an upholder, 100 percent.]
Questioner— questions rules and accepts them only if
they make sense. They may choose to follow rules, or not,
according to their judgment.
Rebel— flouts rules, from outside or inside. They resist
control. Give a rebel a rule, and the rebel will want to do
the very opposite thing.
Obliger— accepts outside rules, but doesn’t like to adopt
self- imposed rules.^4Rubin went on to say that each type has its own pros and
cons, and it’s important to see the types on a continuum rather
than as a black- and- white label. Most of us have a tendency to
respond to rules in one of these four ways, but we don’t always
do so.
As we discussed in chapter 3, it’s important to know what
works for you. If you are a rebel, then a strict accountability
group might send you running the other direction, but a daily
connection point with friends would keep you inspired. If you
are an obliger, then a strict accountability group might be just
the thing to help you get where you want to go.