I
have this personal parenting practice to meet the challenge
of seeing the beauty in my children, even when I am struggling
with them. It’s a choice I made a long time ago and one I have
been disciplined enough to maintain.
I have been working with a family who feel overwhelmed
with the ongoing task of parenting a rather challenging child.
I am working with the child, and also supporting the family on
their journey. What I have witnessed hurts my heart and I want
to write about it so I can caution all of you to avoid making this
kind of mistake.
These parents speak openly about how hard they find their role.
This in itself is fine, as honesty is important, but they speak of this
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Concious Parenting
Children should be seen and heard, and above all, celebrated. By Siri Arti
RAINBOWS
Seeing
in front of their child. “Why do the books lie so blatantly when they
speak of the beauty to behold when having a child?” they asked me
one day in front of their little girl.
I tried to direct the conversation anywhere other than the
exploration into their disappointment. I had just spent five minutes
celebrating their daughter’s qualities with them: her strong sense of
self; her ability to focus; and her clear cognitive comprehension. I
included the young girl in the feedback, addressing both her and her
parents, and therefore placed her directly in the line of fire when they
delivered their negative message.
Mortified, I ended the conversation, gave some home practice (to
both of them) and said goodbye.
through the
pouring rain