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PRACTICE // MEDITATION + RELATIONSHIPS
by sister shivani
5 Easy Steps to
Harmonious Relationships
H
uman beings are familial beings;
we treasure the company of loved
ones. It is proven that harmoni-
ous family relationships promote
mental, emotional, and physical well-being. In
new relationships, care, compassion, and respect
flow effortlessly. New relationships seem perfect
and it’s easy to envision them remaining that
way forever. However, after some time, the
novelty wears off and things change, because
we not only see the gifts of the relationship but
the challenges as well. Initially we may deny
inner and outer relationship issues, to ourselves
and others. Or we may try to cover them up
with pleasing words and actions. But gradually,
left unresolved, it becomes difficult to sustain
the same level of love and respect for the other
person. So what are we to do when we want to
consciously create harmonious relationships?
Our experience of conflict in relationships
begins in our consciousness. So the healing
also has to begin there. If we try to resolve it in
words but hold bitter thoughts in our minds, the
conflict grows. The strength of a relationship is
determined by what we think about each other,
not how we speak or behave. Our behavior can
outwardly be fine, but our thoughts radiate to
that person as vibrations. So, it is only a matter
of time before we receive similar vibes back and
it triggers conflict. Here are five simple steps to
re-create harmony in strained relationships and
consciously create harmonious relationships.
- TAKE RESPONSIBILITY.
The negative energy and emotions during and
after a conflict can block us from realizing
our contribution to it. Our ‘Response’ was
our contribution. Even if the other person
harmed, betrayed, belittled, disrespected, or
ignored us...that was their part. Our response
of anger, hurt, and resentment was our choice
and creation. When we stop blaming the
other person and look at our role in creating
the conflict, healing begins.
2. THE LAW OF RECIPROCITY.
The conflict began due to our percep-
tion about the other person. We created
negative thoughts, felt negative feelings,
developed a negative attitude, behaved
negatively, and then transmitted negative
energy. Hence, the energy radiated returned
back to us, full circle. When our thoughts,
feelings, attitudes, and behaviors turn posi-
tive, the reciprocating positive energy heals
us too.
3. TURN EXPECTATIONS
INTO ACCEPTANCE.
Acceptance means understanding the other
person’s nature and not getting disturbed
by it. When I accept someone and stop ex-
pecting them to be or act some other way,
it limits my internal noise and questions.
When my mind is stable, I can respond
proactively. I will then be able to choose
the right response by remaining assertive,
loving, and powerful.
4. LETTING GO.
Only one of us needs to dissolve our contri-
bution to the conflict for healing to begin.
Letting go means that I am not in resistance
but open to solutions and I do not hold on
to something any longer than necessary.
Once we have resolved the conflict, in order
to move forward, we need to let go of it in
our consciousness. Thus the saying, “For-
give and forget.”