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ACROSS

1 Cigar residue

4 “West Side Story” sides

9 Cul-__: dead-end street

14 Versatile truck,

for short

15 Head off

16 Oven emanation

17 Transmission

specification

19 Divided island of

Southeast Asia

20 Fielder’s mishap

21 Irish watering hole

23 Trucker on a radio

24 Catch one’s breath

25 Stockholm-born

three-time Best

Actress nominee

28 Barfly

29 Run out of juice

30 Weekend show with

Aidy Bryant, to fans

31 “Dig in!”

32 Actress Berry

34 Real estate units

36 Longtime New Year’s

Eve bandleader

39 Dalmatian marks

41 Skin irritations

42 PC key near Z

43 Partners for mas

46 Terminate

47 Suffix with Brooklyn

50 Video game series with

a Warriors of Rock

edition

53 Dashing style

54 Escape key function

55 Comfy footwear

56 Leave the chair

57 Secret Service role

59 Leave the house ...

and a literal feature

of 17-, 25-, 36- and

50-Across

62 Rodeo rope

63 Bring together

64 Gp. that isn’t gun-shy

65 Welles on-screen

66 Hall of Fame pitcher

Ryan

67 Corn serving

DOWN

1 Hole-making tools

2 Den music system

3 San Simeon castle

builder

4 Teri of “Young

Frankenstein”

5 Gardner of

the silver screen

6 Badminton divider

7 Beef

8 Strong ales

9 Not dis?

10 CNN journalist Hill

11 Mariachi’s hat

12 One-celled swimmers

13 Orange veggies

18 Hogwash

22 Keep out

25 Fish organ

26 Move, in realty ads

27 Shone with a nearly

blinding light

29 Pampering place

32 Simple shelter

33 Ambulance letters

35 S&L offerings

36 Looked through a home

remodeling magazine,

perhaps

37 Transvaal settler

38 Florence’s river

39 Arizona cactus

40 Tool that unclogs using

suction

44 Chair part for elbow

resting

45 Feudal Japanese

military ruler

47 “Seinfeld” regular

48 Former Justice __ Day

O’Connor

49 Make beloved

51 Lone Ranger’s pal

52 Affordable, in brand

names

53 Sci-fi beings

56 British firearm

acronym

58 Color like khaki

60 Black gold

61 Hagen of

Broadway

ANSWER TO

PREVIOUS PUZZLE

11/26/19

11/26/19

SUDOKU

BLISS By Harry Bliss

KENKEN

Every box will contain a number; numbers depend on the size of the grid. For a 6x6

puzzle, use Nos. 1-6. Do not repeat a number in any row or column. The numbers in each

heavily outlined set of squares must combine to produce the target number found in the

top left corner of the cage using the mathematical operation indicated. A number can be

repeated within a cage as long as it is not in the same row or column.

FAMILY CIRCUS By Bil Keane DENNIS THE MENACE By Hank Ketcham

ARGYLE SWEATER By Scott Hilburn MARMADUKE By Brad & Paul Anderson

CROSSWORD

By Kurt Krauss © 2019 Tribune Content Agency

Edited By Rich Norris and Joyce Nichols Lewis

SPEED BUMP By Dave Coverly

COMICS

Aries(March 21-April 19):
The only kind of gift that is
not a deal is one without
strings or any expectation of
being repaid.
Taurus (April 20-May
20): Maybe manipulation is,
at its core, dishonest. At
least your aim is true — to
help people do what’s good
for them.
Gemini(May 21-June 21):
If an investment leaves you
feeling poor while you await
a return, it’s not an invest-
ment so much as an overin-
vestment, which leads to
desperation.
Cancer(June 22-July 22):
Whatever you would typi-
cally give others, give that
and more to yourself today.
Otherwise you’ll be at an en-
ergetic deficit.
Leo (July 23-Aug. 22):
Letting go of your expecta-
tions of who you are sup-
posed to be is one of the most
empowering shifts you will

make.

Virgo(Aug. 23-Sept. 22):

Even good feelings like faith

and joy can scare people off,

only because people are

frightened of what they can’t

relate to or comprehend.

Libra(Sept. 23-Oct. 23):

The compliments you give

are the truth and will reflect

the talents, endowments

and efforts you observe.

Scorpio(Oct. 24-Nov. 21):

You’ll stand up for yourself

without putting another

person down. You’ll hold

your own line without break-

ing someone else’s.

Sagittarius (Nov. 22-

Dec. 21): Productive conver-

sations will reveal things

about a person before you

get in too deep with any kind

of relationship.

Capricorn(Dec. 22-Jan.

19): In matters of business,

your goal is to screen for the

ones with a high potential of

finding great value in what

you most want to offer. The

same goes for love.

Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb.

18): Every action has a mo-

tive that speaks out. Know-

ing your own intentions cre-

ates an attractive and align-

ed flow of action.

Pisces (Feb. 19-March

20): You’ll present yourself

with boldness and clarity

and then accept whatever

reaction you get with an eye

toward the opportunities.

Today’s birthday(Nov.

26): You’ll let go of old myths

to embrace an optimistic yet

realistic view of what you’ll

do in the world before your

next birthday. You’ll come

up with strategies that really

work, and you’ll find men-

tors and helpers to make the

process a pleasure. A New

Year’s Eve kiss is a harbinger

of romantic fireworks. Gem-

ini and Cancer adore you.

Your lucky numbers are: 8,

30, 1, 18 and 43.

Holiday Mathis writes her

column for Creators

Syndicate Inc. The

horoscope should be read

for entertainment.

HOROSCOPE

By Holiday Mathis

Two of my books — “Play

Bridge With Me” and “Keys

to Winning Bridge” — have

been reissued by Devyn

Press, a part of Baron Bar-

clay Bridge Supply, the

world’s largest retailer of

bridge-related items.

In today’s deal from

“Keys,” I tried to clear up

some confusion about de-

fensive signals.

Against three clubs, West

leads the ace of spades (not

best); East bid the suit. If

East “signals” with the

deuce to inform West that

his lead was no good, West

may treat that play as asking

for a shift.

He may even treat it as

“suit preference,” suggesti-

ng a shift to the low-ranking

side suit (though suit prefer-

ence applies only in unmis-

takable situations). Here, a

shift to either red suit could

cost.

East must signal with the

eight, encouraging. Nothing

about this is illogical. East is

just discouraging a shift.

Dummy is weakish; passive

defense is indicated.

For all books in print, in-

structional software and

other items to stuff your

partner’s Xmas stocking,

see baronbarclay.com.

Question: You hold: ♠K

Q5 ♥K 5 3 ♦J 9 6 4 ♣10 6 4.

Your partner opens one

heart, you raise to two

hearts and he next bids two

spades. What do you say?

Answer: Partner’s bid of

a new suit is, as far as you

know, a try for game. He asks

you to bid game with any

sound single raise or even

with a fair raise that con-

tains help for his second suit.

You should be in no doubt

here; your raise is a maxi-

mum with two spade hon-

ors. Bid four hearts.

West dealer

Neither side vulnerable

NORTH

♠K Q 5

♥K 5 3

♦J 9 6 4

♣10 6 4

WEST EAST

♠A 9 3 ♠J 8 4 2

♥A 10 7 2 ♥J 8 4

♦K Q 5 2 ♦10 7 3

♣8 2 ♣A 5 3

SOUTH

♠10 7 6

♥Q 9 6

♦A 8

♣K Q J 9 7

WEST NORTH EAST SOUTH

1 ♦ Pass 1♠ 2 ♣

2 ♠ 3 ♣ All Pass

Opening lead — ♠A

Tribune Media Services

BRIDGE

By Frank Stewart

Dear Amy: My husband

and I have two children — a

girl and boy, ages 3 and 4.

I would like to have a

third child, but my husband

does not want to. He has a

demanding job and so has

limited time for hobbies,

spending time with our chil-

dren, and seeing his friends.

The two of us don’t get

enough time together, kids

are expensive, money is

tight, and having another

will further delay our free-

dom and ability to travel.

He is a wonderful father

and a hard worker, so I

understand his concerns.

I have always wanted to

have a bigger family. I feel in-

complete with two children.

Sure, the early years are

busy, but kids grow up. He

sees this current phase of

our lives as restricting,

whereas I see it as a busy sea-

son in life that will pass. I

would be incredibly sad to

stop growing our family now.

We’re in our mid-30s, so

we don’t really have a lot of

time to wait. I don’t want to

have a baby past 35.

How do we figure this

out? If we don’t have more,

how do I get over this?

Wanting More

Dear Wanting More:Par-

enting as you see it — a few

years of craziness followed

by calm, freedom, and finan-

cial stability — isn’t how

many of us experience it. As

the mother and stepmother

to five daughters, I’m here to

tell you that the many pha-

ses of a typical family’s life

blend and morph, one into

another. I won’t say that par-

enting gets easier as you go,

because — just as you’ve

mastered one skill set, the

particular challenges seem

to change.

It sounds as if you have a

partner who is at capacity.

He doesn’t seem equipped

(or willing) to embrace the

messy chaos of life with

young children.

The reason the person

who wants fewer children

might prevail is because par-

ents who are feeling over-

whelmed, pressured or pow-

erless tend to find ways to

exit, either actually (by leav-

ing) or virtually (through ne-

glect).

To be in a family with you,

your husband must now tol-

erate some things that seem

to really bother him: the lack

of freedom, time and money.

To be in a family with

him, you might need to learn

to tolerate that ache you feel

for more children.

In the absence of a happy

compromise, you could work

on your own personal capac-

ity to be happy, anyway.

Dear Amy:I live with my

spouse in her parents’ home.

We rent from them, and they

live elsewhere.

Her mom always wants

to come to the house. It

seems that every weekend,

she finds a reason to come

over.

Also, she is a controlling

person. If we tell her it

doesn’t work out for her to

visit, she gets angry.

Do you have any advice?

Encroached Upon

Dear Encroached: When

dealing with controlling in-

laws, boundaries must be

drawn. This is especially

challenging because you are

living in a house owned by

your spouse’s parents. Your

mother-in-law likely feels en-

titled to visit the property

she owns, even if the people

in it haven’t invited her.

Your spouse is going to

have to find a way to convey

to her mother — in advance

— that every single weekend

is too much.

To draw this boundary

and keep it strong, you and

your partner are also going

to have to learn to tolerate an

occasional outburst or tem-

per tantrum. If this becomes

untenable, you should con-

sider moving.

Send questions to Amy

Dickinson by email to ask

[email protected].

ASK AMY

An impasse on family size