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ACROSS 1 Big name in wax museums 8 Surpasses 14 Worldwide law enforcement group 16 Eradicate 17 *Place for an eruption in Hawaii 18 Supreme Egyptian god 19 *Place for memorabilia about the 44th President 21 Eight British kings 24 Disney doe 25 Middling mark 26 Cries of pain 27 Lab work 30 Sondheim’s “Sweeney __” 31 “Robinson Crusoe” novelist 34 Shooting star 36 Money ... and, in three parts, a hint to the answers to starred clues 39 Like some dress shirts 40 Digital video files 43 Part of P.R. 46 Dix plus dix 48 Agua, across the Pyrenees 49 Smart-whip link 50 Saigon New Year 51 Badger at the comedy club 54 *Place on “Desperate Housewives” 58 Put in a pyramid 59 *Place for a space cadet 63 Treeless tract 64 Monty Python member 65 Like many a salad 66 Record collection?

DOWN 1 Allen of TV’s “Last Man Standing” 2 Spanish “a” 3 Name spelled with an alphabet sequence 4 Tijuana title 5 Sheikdom of song 6 Batting ninth 7 Ruination 8 Compact cars? 9 Latin dance

10 Car service app 11 Mediterranean gambling mecca 12 Sounded content 13 Hung around 15 A.L. West team, on scoreboards 20 Allowing 21 Mortar carrier 22 Wool coat wearer 23 Brief warning accompanying a link 28 Academic retirees 29 Stitch into place 30 Mouth, in slang 32 Cry of woe 33 Fair-hiring abbr. 35 Omega, to an electrician 37 Area between banks 38 Vichyssoise veggie 41 “Wonder Woman” actress Gadot 42 Seek damages 43 Least refined 44 Has a passion for 45 Social strata 47 Name shared by a Grace and a Muse

50 Phoenix neighbor 52 Put on the books 53 Salsa singer Cruz 55 Surpasses 56 Smithwick’s brew 57 Fat used in baking 60 Free-app interrupters 61 Div. won by the Braves in 2019 62 City of Lions and Tigers: Abbr.

ANSWER TO PREVIOUS PUZZLE

11/13/19

SUDOKU

BLISS By Harry Bliss

KENKEN

Every box will contain a number; numbers depend on the size of the grid. For a 6x6 puzzle, use Nos. 1-6. Do not repeat a number in any row or column. The numbers in each heavily outlined set of squares must combine to produce the target number found in the top left corner of the cage using the mathematical operation indicated. A number can be repeated within a cage as long as it is not in the same row or column.

FAMILY CIRCUS By Bil Keane DENNIS THE MENACE By Hank Ketcham

ARGYLE SWEATER By Scott Hilburn MARMADUKE By Brad & Paul Anderson

CROSSWORD

Edited By Rich Norris and Joyce Nichols Lewis

SPEED BUMP By Dave Coverly

COMICS

Aries(March 21-April 19):
You’re not sure how a thing
is going to come together,
and that’s half the fun. You
can trust yourself — you
really can.
Taurus (April 20-May
20): Everything you say and
do has influence. It’s easy to
note the first few ripples
caused by an action. Today’s
ripples are extremely far-
reaching.
Gemini(May 21-June 21):
Instead of hoping for the
best, take more control of
the situation. You’ll antici-
pate, prevent and succeed.
Cancer(June 22-July 22):
You’ll do the work of a pas-
sionate individual, one who
is consumed with the whole
impact of a cycle of meaning-
ful, purposeful contribution.
Leo (July 23-Aug. 22):
You’ll share what you do and
who you are in a way that
gets people talking.
Virgo(Aug. 23-Sept. 22):

There are things to start up and things to shut down. The time has come to start looking at the entire picture and deciding which is which. Libra(Sept. 23-Oct. 23): When you enter a room full of people, what do you see? Get your mindset aligned with the outcome you’re hoping for. Scorpio(Oct. 24-Nov. 21): The very nature of a support system is that the help is not all coming from one source. Couldn’t you use a few more beams and pressure absorb- ers? Sagittarius (Nov. 22- Dec. 21): Curiosity elevates life from ordinary to extraor- dinary. Keep bringing attention back to the current mo- ment. Capricorn(Dec. 22-Jan. 19): You’ll be dealing with a thing that requires your con- stant attention. It will feel as though you are riding this — steering it with all parts of your being, every inch of the way.

Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): If you like how you feel around a person, you’ll want to be with that person. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): The theme of today’s tu- torial is fear. You’ll think about what you might be afraid of, overcoming that, and how you might comfort and allay the fears of others. Today’s birthday(Nov. 13): Your gifts are like a bag of cookies. Once you open up and present them, you’ll have many takers. Excellent mentorship aids you in busi- ness and financial manage- ment and flow. You’ll cross great distances for rewards of the heart. Keeping excellent records now will con- tribute to your future legacy. Cancer and Gemini adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 1, 18, 24, 28 and 31.

Holiday Mathis writes her column for Creators Syndicate Inc. The horoscope should be read for entertainment.

HOROSCOPE

By Holiday Mathis

“My partner is so apt to find fault,” a club player said, “that I finally said I was fin- ing him a quarter every time he said something critical.” “Did he agree to that?” I asked. “When we sat down to play today, he gave me $5 and said he was setting up an account.” My long-suffering friend was East, and West led a high diamond against four spades: nine, jack, ace. South took the A-K of hearts, pitching a diamond, and led a trump. “I took the ace,” East said, “and tried to cash a diamond. Declarer ruffed, drew trumps and started the clubs. He lost two clubs but made his game, and my

partner expended 50 cents of his credit.” I abhor criticism of partner, but East misdefended. If South had a second losing diamond, he would have pitched it on dummy’s jack of hearts. Moreover, South’s pattern was then marked as 6-1-2-4. When East takes the ace of trumps, he must lead a low club. West can win, return a club and ruff a third club for down one. Question: You hold: ♠A 5 ♥10 9 6 ♦K Q J 5 ♣A 6 5 2. Your partner opens one spade, and the next player passes. What do you say? Answer: A response of 2NT (even if treated as natu- ral and forcing) would prom- ise a heart stopper. Bid two clubs, leaving room for partner to try two diamonds if he has length in that suit. A case exists, however, for a re-

sponse of two diamonds: Your four-card suit is so strong that a high diamond contract on a 4-3 fit is con- ceivable. East dealer Both sides vulnerable

NORTH ♠K Q 7 ♥A K J 3 ♦10 9 6 ♣Q 7 3 WEST EAST ♠8 4 ♠A 5 ♥8 7 5 4 2 ♥10 9 6 ♦8 7 4 3 ♦K Q J 5 ♣K 8 ♣A 6 5 2 SOUTH ♠J 10 9 6 3 2 ♥Q ♦A 2 ♣J 10 9 4 EAST SOUTH WEST NORTH 1 ♦ 2 ♠ Pass 4♠ All Pass

Opening lead — ♦ 8

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BRIDGE

By Frank Stewart

Dear Amy:My friend is an alcoholic and seems to be addicted to an abusive relationship. When she is with the man, he verbally and physically abuses her, and she calls friends and parents for help, apparently truly fright- ened for her life. He has threatened her family too. He is a scary guy. If someone steps up to rescue her, she plays with getting sober, may or may not find work, etc. Then the guy calls her, threatens to have her arrested on ridicu- lous charges, and “forces” her to return to him. Do we continue to “rescue”? Do we leave her with him, knowing she could end up dead? Longtime, Worried Friend

Dear Worried Friend: You cannot physically re- move your friend from this abusive relationship, and so your task is to love her as much and as well as you can — patiently and without judgment. Enabling can sometimes feel like rescue, and you should learn the difference. But yes, when she reaches out for “rescue,” you should do your best to respond. Tell her you are worried about her. Tell her you are

there for her. Tell her this doesn’t change the way you feel about her. Ask her if she is ready to get professional help, and then have the ad- dress and number for the Domestic Violence Hotline on hand: thehotline.org (or call 800-799-7233).

Dear Amy: My daughter is

She and my son-in-law
tied the knot recently after
six years together.
He was diagnosed with
stage 4 colon cancer last
year. He is doing well with his
treatments and is progress-
ing better than expected.
I am sure my daughter
being present and support-
ive is a huge part of his medi-
cal success. She didn’t work
before he was diagnosed —
and still doesn’t.
People often ask me what
she “does.” Does she work
outside the home? No. She
works in her home; she’s a
housewife. She takes care of
the house, her husband,
their animals, etc.
I find myself being dumb-
founded by the responses I
get when I tell people that.
Where is it written that a
woman has to work outside
the home to be valuable?
I am becoming defensive.
What’s wrong with being a
housewife or a stay-at-home
mom?
Stumped in Alabama

Dear Stumped: Many moons ago (pre-child), I in- terrupted my career for a pe- riod where I spent my time taking care of myself, husband, hearth and home. When asked what I did for a living, I would respond that I was a “housewife,” which seemed to annoy people. I think the term “housewife” is loaded for some people because it describes someone who is defining herself through an inani- mate object (house) and an- other person (wife). But I liked the term, partly because I liked the life. When my “housewife” descriptor bugged people, I would correct it and say, “Sorry, I mean ‘domestic engi- neer.’ ” It is NOT written any- where that a person must define their value only outside the home. You cannot change the way people react to the way you describe your daughter’s life. The point is that no one who likes her honest, pro- ductive and fulfilling life should feel the need to apol- ogize for it. Nor should you.

Send questions to Amy Dickinson by email to ask [email protected].

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