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CONFESSION#4

“We had such a huge to-do list on the

wedding day, it felt like we missed out on

lots of the celebrations. Everyone seemedd

to be having more fun than us!”

Avoid the drama:It’s greathaving your

girls on-hand tohelp out on theday,but

you need to think about their wedding

experience too. While they’ll be happy to

help you set up beforehand, it’s not fair

for them to have to miss the entire drinkss

receptionbecause they’re setting upyour

tables.Askafewgood friends who aren’t

part of the wedding partyto help out withh

tasks so you’re spreading the load, and

consider hiring a wedding stylist for the

dayifyoureallydohave alot of details

to set up and dismantle.

PW

CONFESSION#^6

“Being asked tobuymy

owndress andshoes, as

well as pay for hair and

make-up, meant being

abridesmaid almost

bankrupted me!”

Avoid the drama:Asking

bridesmaids to payforafew

bits can seem a great way to

keepcosts down. However,

think carefully about how

muchyou’re asking them

to pay.Ifyou can’t affordto

treat them, try to contribute

towards the dress (even

£30 will make a difference),

and stress thathavingtheir

hair and make-up done is

optionalif they’ll have to

pay for it themselves. Giving

people plenty of warning of

costs will help too.

CONFESSION

“A s t h egroom’s sister, I felt

that I was only asked to be a

bridesmaid out of politeness.

Thebride’sfriendstookover

everything and I didn’t feelat

allinvolvedinthedayor the

planningof the hen do.”

Avoid the drama:Often it’s

easier to agree to a coupleof

extrabridesmaids tokeepthe

peace,but don’tgothere if

you’re going to feel resentful

about it. If you’re asking the

groom’s sisters (or other family

members) tobepolite, follow

throughon that and makethem

feelvalued. It’s naturaltogive

the bigger jobs to trusted mates,

butsetasidesometasksfor

the rest of yourbridesmaids

and involvethem in dress

discussions from the start.

CONFESSION

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“I’masize1 8 , so wearingthe

same(strapless)dress as three

size-10 bridesmaids was a nightmare. I

felt reallyself-conscious all day.”

Avoid the drama:One major bridesmaid fai

is putting your girls in dresses they hate. Evenf

you think they look gorgeous, they won’t enjoy

the day if they feel uncomfortable. If one of your

bridesmaids is larger/taller/bustier than the

others, optfor dferent styles in the samehe same

colourcolour – lots of bridesmaid ranges olot f b fer

this, orgive them a colour scheme

andlet them choose their

own dresses.own dresses