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STRONG WOMEN
August is Women’s Month, and one
woman who inspires me is Caster
Semenya. Even though she has con-
stantly faced difficulty and oppo sition,
she is still standing strong.
Strong women don’t consider kind-
ness a weakness, rather they see it as
a very necessary part of their being
which helps them to connect with
others emotionally – and they build
others up rather than tear them down.
Strong women don’t use their egos
for evil, but for good. They see others
as their brothers and sisters and treat
them as such.
Strong women don’t depend on
others for their happiness, they create
it. If you’re a strong woman, you don’t
let other people’s feelings get you
down.
You also don’t let your own inner
turmoil run your life. You rise above
and makethe best of this beautiful
journey.
MASEDIFUSI,JOHANNESBURG
HEALINGANDHOPE
I was left shaking after reading the
story of Olwethu Twalo (I was violated,
15 August). My heart goes out to him
and his family in the aftermath of his
vicious attack on the eve of the holiest
of days, Christmas Day. I’m relieved he
is healing, and that he’s sharing his
terrible ordeal to help others heal too.
MERIDETH SIBAYENI, EMAIL
LISTEN TO YOUR KIDS
Things have changed drastically since
today’s parents were children. Our
parents rarely communicated with us
to see things from our perspective.
Today children are misled by what
they see online. Effective communi-
cation will build a strong bond and
help children to open up. Our children
need us to listen to them to try to see
things from their perspective. That’s
the only way we can advise them well.
ABIGAIL LEDUBUKO, EMAIL
DJ Fresh couldn’t hold back the tears
when he received a surprise visit from
Bonang Matheba on his first day at radio
947, where he started hosting his new
afternoon-driveshow.DRUMreaders
sharedhisexcitement.
Fresh is a brand and will always have
a following.Hisvoiceis magic.
MALETEMANGOLO
It’s hard not to love Queen B. She is so
amazing.
NAKAMPERAMAFALO
I visited him too, but nobody noticed
myvisit.Lifeain’tfair.
T-BONENEPS
It is nice to see people supporting
each other, celebrities or not. It’s a
nice thing to do. Thank you, my
queen.Keepshiningguys.
PATRICIAMODAU
This show is bigger than 5FM’s Fresh
Drive.
VIKTAVICTORNGOBEN
I miss him on Metro, though. The
breakfast show won’t be the same
withouthim.
BABALWAMLONYENI
She did it for her reality show,
LOL. Anyway, good spirit,
QueenB.
DUMISANESIMANGO
Howsweet,Bonang.
MUSOKAMGOBHOZIJAMILE
Everybody loves DJ Fresh!
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