Drum – 22 August 2019

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STRONG WOMEN
August is Women’s Month, and one


woman who inspires me is Caster
Semenya. Even though she has con-
stantly faced difficulty and oppo sition,
she is still standing strong.


Strong women don’t consider kind-
ness a weakness, rather they see it as
a very necessary part of their being


which helps them to connect with
others emotionally – and they build
others up rather than tear them down. 
Strong women don’t use their egos


for evil, but for good. They see others
as their brothers and sisters and treat
them as such.


Strong women don’t depend on
others for their happiness, they create
it. If you’re a strong woman, you don’t
let other people’s feelings get you


down.
You also don’t let your own inner
turmoil run your life. You rise above
and makethe best of this beautiful


journey.
MASEDIFUSI,JOHANNESBURG


HEALINGANDHOPE


I was left shaking after reading the
story of Olwethu Twalo (I was violated,
15 August). My heart goes out to him
and his family in the aftermath of his


vicious attack on the eve of the holiest
of days, Christmas Day. I’m relieved he
is healing, and that he’s sharing his


terrible ordeal to help others heal too.
MERIDETH SIBAYENI, EMAIL


LISTEN TO YOUR KIDS


Things have changed drastically since
today’s parents were children. Our
parents rarely communicated with us


to see things from our perspective.
Today children are misled by what
they see online. Effective communi-
cation will build a strong bond and


help children to open up. Our children
need us to listen to them to try to see
things from their perspective. That’s
the only way we can advise them well.


ABIGAIL LEDUBUKO, EMAIL


DJ Fresh couldn’t hold back the tears
when he received a surprise visit from
Bonang Matheba on his first day at radio
947, where he started hosting his new
afternoon-driveshow.DRUMreaders
sharedhisexcitement.

Fresh is a brand and will always have
a following.Hisvoiceis magic.
MALETEMANGOLO

It’s hard not to love Queen B. She is so
amazing.
NAKAMPERAMAFALO

I visited him too, but nobody noticed
myvisit.Lifeain’tfair.
T-BONENEPS

It is nice to see people supporting
each other, celebrities or not. It’s a
nice thing to do. Thank you, my
queen.Keepshiningguys.
PATRICIAMODAU

This show is bigger than 5FM’s Fresh
Drive.
VIKTAVICTORNGOBEN

I miss him on Metro, though. The
breakfast show won’t be the same
withouthim.
BABALWAMLONYENI

She did it for her reality show,
LOL. Anyway, good spirit,
QueenB.
DUMISANESIMANGO

Howsweet,Bonang.
MUSOKAMGOBHOZIJAMILE

Everybody loves DJ Fresh! 
SIYA MOFOKENG 

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