you’re invited. But it’s the family, the
friends. You can’t include ever ybody. Con-
densing the guest list is the toughest thing.JG: Do you think it’s important for
every groom to have a best man?
KH: Yes, to ta ke the pressu re off you. That’s
the best man’s job. He looks at you when
you’re ner vous and sweating, gives you a
thumbs-up, and says, “I’m proud of you.”JG: Why are most groomsmen bad at
toasts, and why do they get so sweaty?
KH: Because they realize that ever ybody
is staring at them and expecting this to be
the best part of the wedding. They think,
“Ooooh, t h is is it, I wonder what he’s gon na
say!” The toast provides the entertainment
and the icebreaker at the reception, so the
pressure is huge.
JG: What do you think brides need to
chill out about?
KH: The weight loss. I don’t like that
women shr in k dow n to fit into a wedd ing
dress and then the day after, they blow
up [laughing]. Let a groom see what he’s
going to have. Whatever you are is what
he wants you to be.
JG: What do you think grooms need to
chill out about?
KH: Grooms need to stop thin k ing about
the fact that this is the last woman that
they are ever going to be with. That goes
through ever y man’s head. He has to
process that and just accept that this is
it. [To fi ancée] I’m fine with that, though,
baby, because I love you!JG: How do you think guys really feel
about wedding planning? Do they
get interested in centerpieces and
cake toppers, or do they fake it?KH: I don’t think guys care, to be honest
with you. But letting the woman know
that you don’t care is a mistake. Fake it!
When she asks, “Should we go with a
layered cake?” say, “That’s a tough one.What are you leaning toward? Layered?
Yeah, I was about to say that. ...”JG: What do you think you’re going to
spend the most on?
KH: Entertainment. I’m going to line up
a lot of live performers.JG: Who are you going to ask?
KH: I’ve already talked to Drake. I want
Max well to perform too.JG: If you want me to sing “In Summer ”
from Frozen, I’m happy to. Just let me
know. Tell me your proposal s tor y,
because I heard it was epic.
KH: I used her 30th birthday as a decoy.
I was shooting a movie in Atlanta called
Ride Along 2—the first one was a huge suc-
cess—so she thought we were just going
to dinner. I flew out 30 of her family and
friends, put them in a hotel, and rented out
a restaurant. I put up photos of her fromone year old to 30. I had a harpist. I had a
pia nist. E ver yone ca me out f rom beh ind
a curtain, and she saw them and started
cr ying. Then it was dinner and drinks,
a nd we sa ng “Happy Bir t hday.” A nd at
the end of it, I proposed.JG: I’m looking at it as you cheaped
out and did two for the price of one—
the birthday and the proposal.
KH: And the reason you do it in front of
other women is because they will forever
be on your side. All of her cousins, sisters,
a nd f r iends, if a ny thing ever goes w rong,
they w ill a lways back me.JG: My proposal got stolen. I was
going to ask her on the set of 21, on
camera in the middle of the scene.
I’d scripted this whole thing for Kevin
Spacey and the cast to do. Then I got
another job and had to fly home to
L.A., so I had my best friend bring
thousands of rose petals to the house
and line the hallway. She walked in
and was like, “What’s going on?”
And I proposed in a dark bedroom.
KH: I carried the ring around with me for
two months. I designed it myself, and when
you do that, you are so afraid of her not
liking it. So I asked all of our friends,
“What do you think? Is there anything that
you would change?” It had to be perfect.JG: If you had one piece of advice for
couples, what would it be?
KH: Less is more. Capitalize that and put it
in bold. Less is more!
JG: Okay, time for the speed round.
Cool or not cool: cake smashing in each
other’s faces?KH: Not cool.
JG: Flash-mob-style dance to “Single
Ladies,” “Blurred Lines,” or “Don’t
Stop Believin’ ”?
KH: Not cool.JG: Jell-O shots at the wedding?
KH: Cool. [To fi ancée] He’s talking to me!JG: Inviting exes to the wedding?
KH: Not cool. Not cool.JG: A toast that references the bride’s
or groom’s sexual history?
KH: In my case, definitely not cool.“I DON’T LIKE THAT WOMEN SHRINK DOWN
TO FIT INTO A WEDDING DRESS. WHATEVER
YOU ARE IS WHAT HE WANTS YOU TO BE.”
Kevin (right)
plays the best
man and Josh the
groom in The
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