Cosmopolitan USA – September 2019

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WANNA

KNOW

Do most women pre-

fer receiving oral on

their back, stomach,

or in a 69 position?

Survey says: ALL OF

THE ABOVE. But

really, it’s whichever

position she finds

most comfortable.

Here’s a foolproof

one: Have your girl

lie on her back and

prop a pillow under-

neath her hips, sug-

gests Sadie Allison,

PhD, founder

of TickleKitty.com.

What should I

do when I can tell a

woman is faking an

orgasm? I want to be

able to please her....

Hmm, you can tell?

Because most dudes

can’t (so consider

this your special

talent!). As much as

she shouldn’t feel

like she has to fake

it, you shouldn’t feel

like you have to call

her out on it. Instead,

next time you’re

hooking up, ask her

what feels good, or

ask her to move your

hands/mouth/body

where she wants—

then follow her lead.

I read that when

women get turned

on, it’s a full-body

thing. Is that true?

Many of us get tin-

gles in our spine and

toes and feel hot all

over. Since arousal

starts in our brains

and works down-

ward, it can often

feel like our entire

body is electrified.

And it’s awesome.

My partner loves

licking my nipples,

but they don’t get

hard. Is that weird?

ANips can be a huge

erogenous zone for

women. They contain

erectile tissue, which

typically makes them

stick out whenever

they’re titillated. That

said, they can also

be finicky—and that’s

totally normal too.

“For some women,

on (watch for telltale

signs like skin tingling

and pre-outbreak

headaches) or if you

already visibly have

one, going downtown

is an absolute no-go.

“You probably also

want to avoid kissing

so you don’t transmit

the virus mouth-to-

mouth,” says Dr. Mill-

heiser. “Try to wait

until the cold sore is

completely gone.”

licking their nipples

feels the same as lick-

ing their elbow,” says

Dr. Millheiser. “If that’s

you, your body might

not be responding in

the same physiologi-

cal way, but it’s noth-

ing to worry about.”

I know I should

pee after sex to

avoid a UTI, but

what about after

masturbating?

AHere’s a little ditty

for ya: If something

goes in, pee must

come out. So, yes, you

should go before and

after any kind of pene-

tration during solo sex

to make sure no germs

made their way into

your urethra. “Think of

urine like a broth for

bacteria to grow in,”

says Dr. Millheiser. “If

you get rid of it, then

bacteria won’t have

a chance to colonize

in your bladder and

cause an infection.”

Pleasuring your clitoris

only? Then you don’t

have to go (unless, of

course, you need to).

I’ve been dying

to incorporate

more vibrators into

my partner’s and

my sex life. Any

advice for starting

the convo?

AYay! You two are

gonna love to buzz—

it adds such a fun

dynamic to the bed-

room. But you’re not

alone in being new

at this. While 42 per-

cent of Cosmo readers

have tried using sex

toys with their partner,

58 percent haven’t...

yet. To join the other

side, act like the idea

just occurred to you.

“Use a dream as the

icebreaker, like ‘I had

the wildest dream

last night that got me

so hot. Can I tell you

about it?’” suggests

Boodram. “This way,

you’re making it about

what new toy you

can try together ver-

sus casting doubt that

your partner hasn’t

been doing it for you.”

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Sex & Relationships

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Email your sex

questions to

SexQandA@

Cosmopolitan.com.

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is almost as much fun as

having it. (I said almost.)

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