Cosmopolitan USA – September 2019

By DANI BLUM

Deep breaths, bb. Deep breaths.

How

to

tell your boss you’re unhappy

at work without getting fired

f your

Sunday

Scar-

ies are more like

Sunday Hating-

My-Job-Is-Ruining-

My-Life-sies, it’s

beyond time to

speak up. Here’s

how to make

your case without

getting shown

the exit.

BE SUUUPER

SPECIFIC

Make a list of

every factor that

bums you out, even

the subpar office

snacks. Then nar-

row it down to the

most critical issues,

like the ones you

rant about in your

group texts (hi,

working overtime

without extra pay!).

That’s the stuff

you’ll want to get

into with your boss.

(Also, bring your

own damn snacks.)

NEVER ACTUALLY

SAY “I’M MIZ”

Something so real:

Demanding a fix

will do you exactly

zero favors. So

instead of calling

out your supervi-

sor’s micromanag-

ing, try something

like: “I need your

help with a chal-

lenge I’m having,”

advises career

coach Andrea

Goeglein, PhD. The

point is to make

your boss *want*

to help you

problem-solve, not

get defensive.

BRING IDEAS

Come armed with

solutions, says

consultant Steve

McClatchy. If you

wish “traveling

for work” meant

across state lines

versus to and from

lunch, find industry-

relevant events to

attend. Then tell

her how this would

help your team:

“I can make

connections that

might bring in

business.” Who’s

the star now?

NAB SOME

CAL TIME

Honestly, just the

idea of sending

a “Hey, can we

chat???” email is

enough to make

you want to keep

quiet altogether.

The work-around:

Ask if you can

set up a monthly

20-minute check-in.

Use the first

one to bring up

whatever’s bother-

ing you and

the rest for

productive

convos about

your work.

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1.

Your role isn’t

really the

right fit for you.

2.

Your boss isn’t on

your side.

3.

You low-key hate

your coworkers.

4.

There’s *actual*

unfairness or

sexism at your job.

6 red flags that mean it’s time to leave

Pro tip: Get

yourself a

ride-or-die work

wife you can

strategize with.

WO

RK

IT

5.

You haven’t gotten

a raise in forever—

and feel like

you deserve one.

6.

There’s no room

to grow past

the role you’re

in rn.

life

104 Cosmopolitan September 2019

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