Cosmopolitan USA – September 2019

even possible? And is

it...fun?” to which my

boyfriend replied,

“I...think so?”

Let’s rewind: My

BF and I have been

together for a min-

ute—okay, eight

years’ worth of min-

utes—and we keep

our sex life adult-film-

worthy. We’ve done it

on a boat, on a float,

from the back, in the

crack....I’ve eaten a

doughnut off his dick,

for crying out loud!

We screw like porn

stars auditioning for

the biggest roles of

our lives, and gener-

ally, we love it. But I’m

tired! I’m so very tired.

There are only so

many ways to arrange

your limbs before you

pull something.

Enter the art of

karezza. It’s an affec-

tionate, unrushed style

of sex that emphasizes

connection and treats

orgasms as a delight-

ful bonus instead

of the main event. It

comes from the Ital-

ian word “carezza” (a

caress), and although

the concept has been

around since at least

184 4 and is well -

known in the tantric

world, it’s starting to

enter the average per-

son’s bedroom (i.e.,

me). And bless up:

Experts say that when

done right, it can

transform sex into a

wonderland of mutual

pleasure.

Now, I’m not the

kind of girl who likes

to stare deeply into

my partner’s eyes and

gently weep as I cli-

max, but like I said, I

do need breaks from

my acrobatic sex life.

Plus, if it’d help me

and the boyf go full

Spice Girls “2 Become

1,” then who am I not

to try slowing down?

And I kinda loved it?

I tried the new sex

trend that’s

all

about

not orgasming

By KRISTA MCHARDEN

funny thing happened

when my legs were

behind my head and

my boyfriend was get-

ting ready to enter me

from behind. As I con-

torted myself into this

sexy pretzel, I won-

dered aloud, “Is this

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