It’s a process,
not a position
“Karezza movements
are typically very
slow so as not to build
toward orgasm,” says
Laurel Steinberg,
PhD, a clinical sexolo-
gist and relationship
expert. “Instead,
caressing, holding, and
rubbing are the goals.”
It’s not about the end-
ing, but the journey,
you feel? Penetrative
sex might still be the
finale, but this is about
foreplay. On steroids.
The payoff: next-level feels. As sex
researcher Steve
McGough points
out: “Our digitally
overstimulated lives
have caused many
of us to lose connec-
tion with the deeper
parts of ourselves.”
By spending so much
time loving all up on
each other, you can
get back in tune with
bae...and your own
body too.Taking it slow.
Reeeal slow.My boyfriend and
I set aside a Satur-
day night to turn on
The Weeknd, dim the
lights, and try it out.
We stood facing each
other and made a pact
not to laugh, no mat-
ter how awkward.
Then we spent a good
hour, fully clothed, just
kissing and touching
each other. Not hurry-
ing was tough at first,
but then it became...
better? Feeling him get
hard through his pants
but not being able to
do anything about it
was frustrating in the
best way. We gave
each other foot mas-
sages—which I thought
would gross me out,
but I was so worked
up that any bare skin
turned me on.We gradually
undressed each other,
unlocking our eyes
only to find the nec-
essary buttons and
zippers. We got to
really look at each
other, which drove
me wild because I just
wanted to grab him
and let him slide into
me but couldn’t. Fully
naked, we took our
time exploring each
other’s bodies with just
lips and fingers, start-
ing with 10 heavenly
minutes of his head
between my legs. We
kissed some more,
taking short breaks to
hug and stare.
When we finally
had intercourse in mis-
sionary (face-to-face,
ya know!), it lasted
about one minute
because we were both
so horned up. Seri-
ously, we climaxed at
the exact same time.
Afterward, we just
held each other and
both said—legit jinx-
style—“Damn, that
was intense.”The karezza
comedownIn hindsight, I have
a few thoughts. First:
Making out is the best!
I felt like a teenager
again. And all that
intense eye contact
made me realize that
I don’t often truly look
at my boyfriend. Ear-
muffs if you can’t han-
dle mushy stuff, but I
remembered what a
babe he is and how
much I love him. That
shit was magical, and
if you could bottle it
up and sell it, you’d be
Elon Musk–level rich.
That said, karezza
probably isn’t the best
move on a casual
Tuesday. It’s a hot
way to check in or
reconnect after time
apart or a fight, but
it’s def kind of a time
suck. My boyfriend
said the same, but he
loved how close we
felt after. No shade
to our usual moves—
reverse-cowgirl can be
as enjoyable as it is
O-inducing—but some-
times a woman doesn’t
need to contort like
a pretzel. She’s not a
snack, she’s the whole
damn meal.“ I ’m i n a n L D R,
which means we have to
make the most of sex when
we’re together—a lot of quick-
ies! Trying karezza was a break
from our routine, and it was
so, so good. Even though
an orgasm isn’t the goal, I
had two!”—BECCA, (^24) “I asked the guy
I’m hooking up with to
try karezza with me. It was
w e i rd t o b e s o i n t i m a t e w i t h
someone who isn’t my
boyfriend, but it was also
really cool. He even texted
afterward to say how
awesome the sex was.”
—STEPHANIE, 20
“Karezza was too
intense for me and my
fiancé! Maybe it was
because we’re stressed out
planning our wedding, but
we both had a hard time
concentrating. We’ll try again
after we’re married!”
—ALLIE, 28
of Cosmo
readers are
down to try
karezza. (Report
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This shit was magical,
and if you could bottle
it up and sell it, you’d
be Elon Musk–level rich.
SOURCE:
COSMO POLL
September 2019 Cosmopolitan 85