The Astrological e Magazine – July 2019

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Another secret of the 7th

house is let go of being

too critical.

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who develop back problems usually have relationship
problems that they cannot see or acknowledge or do
something about. The pains in your back manifest
like pokes and prods suggesting discomfort in your
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I think that myth of the life-long perfect partner
is not realistic. Our parent’s generation had more
12 th house sacrificial understandings. We know
too many parents that split up later in life after the
children are grown and gone, who tolerated enduring
long term anguish within their marriage. Romantic
relationships, business relationships and marriages
do have an expiration date. When relationships are
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Scorpio or Leo/Aquarius, there may be a tenacious
holding on. Our partner should teach us about our
self and if we are not able to see that mirror and
experience too much agony, then it is time for a
new mirror and hopefully that will help deepen our
self-discovery.

Everyone knows

that Venus, love and

relationships are

connected to the 7th

house but the key to the

7 th house is Self-love.

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and self-responsibility create success. This is one of
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responsible for successful relationships. So many
people run from one bad relationship to another
because they always blame the other partner rather

than taking self-responsibility for not doing their

part to help ensure success. This failure becomes a

maddening dance and inability to reconcile with your

personal dark shadow and instead blame the other

and the universe for picking on us. Saturn beckons

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Everyone knows that Venus, love and relationships

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house is Self-love. If we can love our self enough,

then we can put up with any partner’s imperfections.

In writing this article, I have realized that my exalted

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marriage and accept my wife’s imperfections because

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I am continuing the life-long dance of letting in

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compromise, love and accept.

The 7th house is a

Kama house, house

of desire. The secret

is to move beyond

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and personal need

toward unconditional

contribution in love

with our partner.

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personal need toward unconditional contribution in

love with our partner. The process of sexual desire

for stimulation creates a push and pull in romance

that provides the platform of a deeply evolutionary

process which should propel us to the 12th house of

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leads us to moksha and enlightenment. Ultimately

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