Glimpse – July 2019

JULY 2019 | GLIMPSE | 75

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Text: Caiityya V. Pillai

RANDOM MUSING

with love and relationships then
comes massive confusion during the
comfortable period. Wondering if we're
still in love or if the love has faded? For
the majority of loving relationships,
there comes the breakup, incredibly
painful and emotionally damaging.
After all of that fun stuff comes one
of two things: peace or agony. We either
accept that we lost the person we loved
and move on with our lives, or we find
ourselves unable to let go and instead
live in the shadow of that relationship.
Some are able to make clean breaks
while others are fated to yearn, but to
never again touch. It should come as no
surprise that so many refuse to allow
themselves to fall in love again. They're
still not over with the pain of losing the
last love, & now are not too eager to go
through the whole process again.
Being in love doesn't make you
crazy. You have to already be crazy to
allow yourself to fall in love, especially
if it isn't the first time around. Only an
insane person would voluntarily sign

up for so much pain, sadness, and

voluntary madness. We would probably

all be better off if we never allowed

ourselves to fall in love, and pretend

as if we have no heart at all. The only

guaranteed way not to get your heart

broken may be to act like you don't

have one, but that is no way to live. I

don't actually believe that, but the truth

is, all that pain you experience, all those

difficult times you have to face and deal

with, all of it is necessary.

It's necessary for you to learn and

to grow as an individual. It's necessary

to feel the pain of love in order to

understand the meaning of loss. Most

importantly, you need the pain of love in

order to love. Without the pain, without

the needs and urges, love wouldn't

be the miracle that it is. Without pain,

happiness doesn't exist. You need to

hurt when you are in love in order for

you to understand how much you need

the other person. You have to feel pain

because through pain, human beings

learn basic behaviorism.

We hurt, and by hurting, we

understand we need that person in

order to stop from hurting. We need the

person we love in order for us to feel

at peace, to feel safe, to feel like we're

home. As long as you have a heart, as

long as you have that basic emotional

need to find and spend your life with

a partner, you not only are risking the

chance of getting hurt, it is almost

with absolute certainty that hurt

comes with it.

The only thing we can do is find the

person who will hurt us the least...