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HERE’S TO THE FATHERS
Let’s celebrate fathers who are present in
our lives.
All those fathers out there supporting
our mothers in this journey of building
strong families.
Fathers who are not scared to love and
commit, and I’m glad my mother chose
such a man to be our father.
She chose to marry a man who fears
God, a man who loves his family, and
a man in whom you can confide your
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THANK YOU FOR
A BEAUTIFUL GIFT,
MOM-IN-LAWI decided to take time and pen
a thank you letter to my mother-in-
law, as I know that she’s worried
about her newlywed daughter and
wondering how she’ll be treated at
my home after marriage.
With this letter I just want
to assure you, Mom, that your
daughter will stay a daughter in my
home too – not a daughter-in-law.
She told me that you are worried
about her household skills because
she is still young. But my mom is an
angel, and your daughter will never
hear things like, “Your mom taught
you nothing!”
I will help her with house chores,
as I believe there is nothing at home
that should be done by women only.
I was raised in a home where we
all shared chores. I remember when
I was a little boy, about five or six
years, my mom was sick, and I did
the dishes by climbing on top of the
stool, as I was too short to reach
up to the kitchen sink. So, your
daughter is perfect as she is. Please
do not feel like you have lost her.
She is still your daughter, and will
stay your daughter forever!
Feel free to call or visit her
anytime. You are most welcome.I have a mother, and I know how
much I would hate it if someone
someday told me that my mom is no
longer important in my life.
Please don’t stretch your means in
anything for “honour” of my family.
You can’t buy our love for her with
money or gifts, and we are already
living in a home that has everything.
She must not bring even a single
spoon as a “gift”.
In fact, we should be paying you
a hell of a lot of money for giving us
your most precious jewel.
Our wedding will be basic and
simple. We will not make it a
show-off for a shallow society. In my
family, we don’t care what relatives
will say or think. It’s between your
family and mine.
Relatives are just the background
noise, not that important...
I know it is a good thing to advise
your daughter when she leaves
home to start her own, but just don’t
overdo it. Allow her to be herself.
Let her be her stupid, childish,
irresponsible and even sometimes
messy self. I will take care of her.
And if I can’t, then I will call you.
The most important thing, Mom, is
that I love your daughter. I love her
more than I love myself, and
I promise that I will do everything
that a man can do for his woman.
JOHN SHABANGU,
ZITHOBENI, GAUTENGdeepest secrets and cry out without
feeling embarrassed.
He knows when to worry and when to
lead you with strong hands through
a dark storm in your life.
When he’s away, maybe to run a
marathon, we all miss him. I look at my
younger siblings and realise how fond
they are of him. They love him to bits,
and he means the world to them.
I reflect on my own and realise my
mom won a million dollar jackpot. Shechose a simple man with a big heart.
Every time he is away, he takes with
him a piece of our hearts – which makes
us love him even more.
He is simple, humble, considerate,
uncomplicated, not pretentious – what
you see is what you get.
He is caring, sympathetic, loving,
gentle and very patient with us. We all
call him Daddy, because he loves being
a father and was truly born for this.
My dad is a man who can pray for us
and pray with us. He is everything to us!
I’m 29 years old and planning on
settling down and having a family of my
own. I hope I get a man who will make
me and the kids his top priority like my
dad did with us.
A man who will be ready to spend
his entire lifetime fulfilling the
responsibilities and promises he has
made to me. A man who can admit his
mistakes and extend forgiveness.
A man who knows that I’m not perfect
and that my imperfections make me
perfectly fit for him. I want to marry
a man who has his own life goals but is
also supportive of mine.
I want a man who can motivate me
and remind me to give myself room
to breathe whenever I face too much
pressure and adversity. I want to marry
a man who is just like my father...
JACOBETH MAKALA, RIAMARPARK,
BRONKHORSTSPRUITMY COMRADE
My mom is my comrade, my best friend,
sister – and everything divine. I don’t
have many memories of my childhood,
but I do get some flashbacks. I remember
how I used to lie on her tummy,
touching her face with my little hands
and how she used to make me eat from
her hands.
I also remember her caressing my
forehead until I fell asleep. I remember
every time she came to my bed at night
and kissed me good night. I used to be
awake, but I never told her. Those are
still the most beautiful moments of my
life etched in my memory.
Whenever I remember all these,
I just cry inside... Tears of joy. I had a
beautiful childhood all because Mom
was there for me. I love my mom, and
I love her with all my heart, soul and
with every trace of life that resides in
me. She made me! I can’t afford to lose
her; she’s too precious a pearl. I want to