feAture

Dr geOrge KAIThOLIL

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ccept and love yourself; only
then can you radiate positive
energy around you. It takes
more than just doing things for
others to be a good person. Being
good is said to mean more than just
being kind. Being good has much
to do with discovering yourself and
your function in society.

In order to be truly good, you have
to take into account what goodness
means to you. It can mean being
kind, understanding, generous,
honest, reliable, helpful, unselfish,
polite, patient, forgiving, humble
and so on.

Here are a few tips to help you on
your way towards being a better
person:

1

Determine what

it means to you

personally to be a good

person.

Often people think being good

simply means doing no harm to

others. However, the question is more

about what you do than what you

don’t. If you are a good person you

surely help others, but at the same

time, you don’t neglect yourself either.

What is your ideal of a person?

List qualities that, according to you,

make an ideal person. Then begin

living up to these qualities.

Do you look forward to your

goodness being returned?

Do you expect your generosity

and services to bring something in

return?

Are you giving or doing things to

win public acclaim or because you

truly want to give and help?

You will be a better person if you

stop putting on airs and adopt an

attitude of generous giving without

expecting anything in return.

Goodness is not just external; real

goodness comes from the heart. Lay

out your own code of conduct and

follow it up with what you believe

makes you good. This might at times

be opposed to what others consider

good and they might find fault with

you. If you can learn something from

them and upgrade yourself, do so; if

not, take their opinion for what it is

worth.

Mark Twain warns, “Keep away

from people who belittle your

ambitions. Small people always do