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Commitment phobia might be masking deep personal
issues. Hemchhaya De lists down ways through
which you can help your man overcome the fearP
riya Pandey* labels
commitment
a “dirty word”
particularly in the
online dating landscape.
The 29-year-old software
engineer, based in Noida,
narrates her swipe-right
experiences, and states that
she notices a pattern in her
meetings. “This has happened
several times now—I meet
someone online, the man
shows tremendous interest,
I go with the flow and then,
suddenly, one day, he says
that things are getting too
intense and he doesn’t
want to commit. I end
up questioning myself, ‘Is
something wrong with me?
or, am I just attracting the
wrong kind of men?’”
In Pandey’s case, the
men have been honest; and
made it amply clear that
commitment is indeed an
issue for them. However,
PR consultant Seema Das*
continues to have no clue
why her former partner of
five years severed ties with
her without an explanation.
“He seemed interested in
committing, and wooed me
fiercely, but when I finally
wanted to have a serious
discussion on whether
we could actually consider
settling down, he dumped
me unceremoniously,”
says the Mumbai-based
32-year-old.
Unfortunately, both
scenarios are all too familiar
to scores of women who
have borne the brunt of men
distancing themselves at the
mention of commitment.
Undoubtedly, it’s painful
and can scar one for life.
Now, how does one deal
with such situations? Let
our guide help you.