Femina India – July 10, 2019

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WILL IN ABOUT A BOY

In this blockbuster, Hugh
Grant plays a philanderer
who loves women and later
discovers that being a parent
isn't quite as scary as
he thought.

BUNNY IN YEH JAWAANI

HAI DEEWANI

In the project, Ranbir Kapoor
is a thrill seeker who chooses
to chase his dreams even if
that means staying away from
loved ones. Eventually, he
realises the joy of being in
a relationship.

ROB IN HIGH FIDELITY

John Cusack is

a 30-year-old record store

owner who is trying to

understand why he is always

unlucky in relationships.

DHARAM IN BEFIKRE

Ranveer Singh plays Dharam
who prefers open
relationships. He then meets
Shyra, and what sets out as
a fling soon turns into love.

ON-SCREEN

COMMITMENT

PHOBES

Spend quality

time together

If the relationship is going

through a rough patch,

your man may reconsider

committing.

“If you are suffering more

lows than highs in your

relationship, it creates

a negative association which

in turn leads to stress. No

one chooses to stay in

a stressful environment,”

says Mehta. To reduce the

tension, address the issues

openly, accept differences

and make an effort to put the

relationship back on track.

“Make sure to point out that

he's truly irreplaceable, gain

his trust,” says Dr Sabharwal.

“Also make sure that you

introduce him to your close

friends.” In other words,

hang out with friends and

do fun things together—the

idea is make him want to be

in a relationship with you,

according to experts.

IRON OUT THE

DIFFERENCES

Do not think commitment

is a natural ally of physical

intimacy. Pandey learned

the hard way. “When you

get physically intimate,

you normally tend to think

that the man is into you,

and you can expect the

fledgling relationship to

take a serious turn. But

now, I am more cautious,

and gauge beforehand if

these are mere hook-ups.”

The moral of the story: it’s

unwise to expect a man to

commit because you have

had sex with him. “Yes, sex

is one way of expressing

love, but it is not the only

way. Over a period of

time, the excitement will

fade, and compatibility

problems will show up.

It is possible that men and

women unknowingly use

sex to get attention, but

do make sure that sex does

not become the driving

force of your relationship,”

cautions Mehta.

SEX AND

COMMITMENT

children can be a fulfilling

experience for both partners.

But he wasn’t keen on

hearing me out, Eventually,

I stopped bringing the subject

up,” says Das. Furthermore,

in the midst of figuring out

the situation, don’t take your

individuality for granted.

“It is important to remember

that you lead a life that can be

different than your partner’s,”

says Mehta. Pursue your own

interests without feeling

guilty, she advises.

It is possible that men and women

unknowingly use sex to get

attention, but do make sure t hat sex

does not become the driving force of

your relationship.