My guess...yeah, that's gotta be it.
Yes, my father had favorites, he never said so, he never denied it (but, it's not like
anyone would have ever asked him)
I think he enjoyed each of us differently in distinct eras in our lives...that maturity level
thingy. He was de nitely proud of each and every one of us.
Yes, I know dad had a favorite daughter, but I never cared about that. Too many(5) to
keep up with.
My eldest sister number #3, relocated to New York, she resided there for at least 30
years. Her sibling in uence was strong, as my 3 sisters Numbers (#5,#6, & #7) would
eventually join her in residence in the big bright lights scenery and fridge winters of
New York.
When she, (sibling number #3) came home to visit, the entire family would be thrilled
beyond imagination including our father.
She would eventually relocate back home after her early retirement. She resided with
our parents until she bought her own home. My parents enjoyed her stay with them.
I learned when she moved in with them, it was the best time to be around pops to ask
questions and ask for stuff that would normally get a negative response from him. He
really enjoyed her presence. She had a real effect on him. He seemed much happier. She
was always to the point and with all my siblings, she had no regrets.
My father didn't take holidays well. I understand better now. There we were, a house
full, limited income and everyone wanted a holiday of appreciation. He tried, lord
knows he tried. Our mom prepared dinner every day as if it was a holiday.I don't
remember holiday dinners being any different.
A lot depended on what days the Holidays fell on when it came to the siblings'
de nition of "Happy Holidays".
There was a minimum of one gift per child and a maximum of 1 gift per child. We got it,
no one ever complained.
He always said "Don't wait for the holidays.
If you want something. "GET IT TODAY".
That wise option sounded good, but realistic options were few and far between.
We, as kids. silently prayed that Xmas eve would fall on a good day. There were no
funds available for discretionary purchases except on Fridays after bills were paid.