110 | May• 2019LIFE WELL LIVED
PHOTO: MATTHEW COHEN35 LESSONS
I’ve Learnt In
35 Years of Marriage
Lesson 15: Being right will eventually lose its appeal
1 Don’t complain about the cooking
when your spouse is the cook.
2 Never start the day off nagging or
complaining.
3 An unwillingness to quarrel
about something doesn’t mean
you agree with it.
4 There’s no end to how much you
can love someone if you let yourself.
5 Never decide to get a divorce
when you have PMS (or the flu).
6 Generosity may be the key
to all happiness.
7 Express gratitude often.BY WINIFRED M. REILLY FROM SPEAKINGOFMARRIAGE.COMLIKE MOST NEWLY WEDS, my hus-
band and I stepped into marriage
bright-eyed, optimistic and unpre-
pared. But – let’s hear it for young
love – we assumed that our marriage
would be a rousing success. Marriage
turned out to be far more challenging
than we had imagined; yet, we just
celebrated our 35th anniversary.
Despite flaring tempers, pouting
and a mutual tendency to blame, our
saving grace may have been that we
both kept two feet in. Here are some
of the lessons we learnt the hard way.