Date to your advantage
Meeting new people and going on dates
are great ways to practise your social
skills. When you think about it, dating is
the perfect way to learn how to converse
with a stranger. Think about topics
to talk about, how to avoid awkward
silences and how to introduce and
present yourself to someone new. It’s also
a great way to learn a flirting skill or two!
Believe it or not, these social skills are
great. They’ve definitely helped me in
my job and upped my general socialising
skill today! On top of that, dating is
a great way to expand your view by
exchanging ideas and experiences with
each other. If you don’t end up together,
at least you’ve made a new friend and
learnt something new.
Make the first move
I don’t know about you but if I see
someone I really like, I’d say hi first.
Be it in real life or online, it’s just
something that I’d do to get what I want.
#GirlPower! However, because we’re
not used to being rejected as women,
sending the first message with the
potential of being rejected can be very
daunting although it saves time and gets
you a step closer to getting what you want.
I also believe that our online persona
doesn’t always match who we are in
real life. So, meeting someone IRL is
important for me to get to know how he
is in person and determine if I should
pursue the relationship. Most of the
time, you’d meet someone you’d click
with, but there’d be times when things
get awkward and all you want to do
is leave! So if the latter happens as
soon as you get to know the person, at
least you’re saving yourself time from
pursuing someone that might not even
be right for you!
HOW NOT TO DATE:
Don’t take things personally
While your intentions might be at the right place,
not everyone you meet online will have the same
notions as you. So it’s important to not take any
rejection, ghosting or mean comments personally.
Their rejection isn’t a reflection of your failure
to impress them or that you’re unattractive, but
rather, a reflection of the fast-paced world that we live in today.
Whether we like it or not, the downside of dating apps is that while it’s easy and
fast to meet people, it also means that they’re less likely to make the effort to go after
someone worth meeting – like yourself. Honestly, if you ask me, you don’t want
someone who doesn’t at least try to impress you. To them I say, “thank you, next!”Don’t feel obligated to please
It’s natural to want to impress a date, especially if it’s someone you’ve just met and
really like. However, it’s important to remember that you’re not obliged to do what
they tell you to, especially if it’s something that you’re not comfortable with. Always
take care of yourself first and trust your gut cos you never know when it’ll save you!WHAT NOW?
Do what’s best for you
If you feel a bit lost with this online dating
world shenanigan, you’re not alone.
Sometimes online dating can be taxing,
so do what you feel is right for you and
don’t follow everybody else! If you’re keen
on meeting people but don’t have the time
and energy to talk to them online, then opt
to meet someone in real life instead. Have
a friend set you up on a blind date or go to
a networking/dating/hobby event which is
always a fun way to meet new people!Take a break from the apps
If you’re currently active on dating apps
but nothing productive comes out of it,
take a break. Going through profiles can
sometimes be addictive and disappointing
if no one responds, so instead of absorbingall the negativity, it’s best to channel it to
something positive instead. Only go back
to the apps when you’re ready or if you
decide to not go back at all, that’s cool
too! Do what’s best for you.
I hope that these tips help you and that
you’ll have a positive dating experience
while exploring the exciting yet wild world
of online dating. Stay safe, have fun and
just be yourself!