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pretty ingenious apps out there to up
your game. On one end of the spectrum,
there’s Lick This, which helps you
practise by licking your actual phone
screen (gross, maybe skip that one).
Then there’s OMGyes, a science- backed
website that’s specifically devoted to
female pleasure. It walks you through
the female anatomy, and has touchable
videos for your iPhone and iPad. (It’s not
just for women; OMGyes says that half
of its users are men.) It’s R650 for a one-
time download, but that’s a small price
to pay to be a cunnilingus champ.
Pay Attention. Apps are awesome,yes, but the absolute best intel you’ll
get about what gives your partner the
most pleasure will come straight from
the source. Get a sense of what she likes
from her moans and groans; but don’t
rely on verbal cues alone, because – news
flash – some women, though not all,
exaggerate things in the moment.
Instead, ask specific questions,suggests Marin. “Saying, ‘What do
you want?’ is a really broad question,
and women struggle to answer it,”
she says. Go with comparison-style
queries, like “Did you like this pressure
or that pressure?” That way, you’ll get
constructive feedback that you
can actually work with.
social psychologist and author of Tell
Me What You Want. “Giving them that
positive feedback when you’re getting a
sensation you really enjoy makes it more
likely that you’re going to receive that
sensation again,” he says.Do Not Give Her a Hand. Although
you are fully allowed to sit back and relax,
or even gently guide her while she’s down
there, there’s one thing every expert I spoke
to agrees on: Do not grab the back of her
head to thrust deeper. But what if I...?
Nope. What about if she...? Nope, nope,
nope. It’s a super- controlling, slightly
unsafe (for your penis and her gag reflex)
move that will probably turn her off. “I’ve
never ever talked to a woman who liked it,”
Marin says. Put your hands at your sides or
interlock your fingers behind your head.
Just whatever you do, keep them to yourself.Tell Her When You’re Ready. Nobody
likes surprises, and this piece of advice
should not be surprising: give her a little
warning before you’re about to ejaculate.
Some women don’t mind swallowing, and
others would rather drink warm beer. The
point is, she probably leans strongly in
one direction; so say something, when you
feel yourself getting there.A NOTE
O N
HYGIENE
If you’re feeling
self-conscious
about body odour, a
quick wipe down of
your, uh, area with
a cleansing cloth
will keep you fresh
in a pinch and make
the act all the more
inviting.Baby Dove
Sensitive
Moisture Wipes
Hey, if they’re good
enough for babies’
butts (there’s no
fragrance, alcohol,
or parabens), then
they’re good enough
for your peen.
R29, ClicksBelow The Belt
Grooming Fresh
& Dry Balls
Long night at the club
ahead? Rub this gel
onto your nuts post-
shower to help keep
them fresh and dry and
avoid sweaty odour
down there. R149.99,
ClicksRELATIONSHIPS“ The best intel about
what gives your
partner pleasure
will come straight
from the source.”
Tell Her What You Like. You know
which manoeuvres take you there,
but she doesn’t. So you might have
to bring her up to speed either in the
moment or afterward. “Communicating
about what we want and what we
don’t want produces better-quality
sexual interactions,” Garcia says. If
her first attempt was on the not-great
side, avoid awkwardness and keep the
convo positive and encouraging by
emphasising the moves you did like. In
the end, this kind of talk will lead to even
better bj’s, says Dr Justin Lehmiller,RECEIVING
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