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Suziesays
A
Whateveryourdebts,I seenoreason
whyyoushouldstayina miserable,
unwillingmarriage,especiallyone
whereheseemstofeelhecantakea breakwhenever
hewants.Seea solicitoratonce.Somesolicitorsoffer
a shortinterviewthatallowsyouenoughtimetogeta
lotofquestionsansweredfora fixedfeeofaslittleas
£10.Someevenoffersurgerieswitha one-offfree
interview.Butmakesureyoutalktoonewhois a member
of Resolution who will not railroad you into conflict.
Q
I’vebeenbestfriendswith
thismanforagesandwe’ve
alwaysbeenclose.Recently
he’schangedandissometimes
nastyandtriestoknockmy
confidence.Thistimehe’sreally
gonetotown.I caughthim
watchingmeinthemirrordoing
myhair.Thenhetoldmeheknows
I wanttobea manandweshould
gotoa gaybar,I shouldpretend
to be a man dressed as a woman
andpulla gayman.WhenI said
hewascrazy,hesaidI wasin
denial.What’sgoingoninhishead?
Theterriblethingishe’snowgot
meallconfusedaboutmyown
sexuality.Couldhebe right?
Suziesays
A
Well,he’sbeenreading
uponthepsychobabble,
hasn’the?Soinstead
ofdenial,maybeyoucould
discussprojection– whenone
personputsintoanother
person’smouththethings
theywanttosay.It couldbe
yourfriendwhohasworries
oversexuality.Or,ofcourse,
he’sjustplayingsillymind
games.Besupportiveif it’s
theformer– tellhimtotake
a hike if it’s the latter.
I WANTTOMAKEA LIFE
WITHOUTMYHUSBAND
Q
I’vefallenfora colleagueandwetalkand
havea laughandwe’vehadtheoccasional
kissingsession.We’rebothmarried,butin
nameonly.He’stoldhiswifehewantstoleaveher,
andI thinkshe’sseeingsomeoneelsetoo,andI
hopethismeanshewillwanttoseemoreofme.
I can’tgeta divorcefrommyhusbandasdueto
heavyfinancialcommitmentswewillhaveto
staytogetheruntilitissortedout.Myhusband
hasanotherwomanhelovesandstayswithat
weekends.HespentChristmaswithherandher
familyandI wouldhavelovedtoseemyboyfriend
justonceovertheholidays,butI havebeentold
thatif I bringanymanbacktothehouseI willbe
in serious trouble. How can I get out of this mess?
I’M TOOSCARED
TOMEETA MAN
Q
I’msingleandlonely.Myfriends
areallmarriedorengaged.IfI
meeta man,I’mtooscaredtoget
toknowthemasI’vebeenletdownin
thepastsooften.I’vebeentryingto
finda friendtogoonholidaywith.The
friendI wentwithlastyearturnedout
tobea disaster.I’ma veryloyalfriend
butI’vefoundwomentobeveryhasty
and not always to be trusted.
Suziesays
A
Itsoundslikeyouneedto
buildupyourself-confidence
andself-esteem.A good
startwouldbetomakea real
efforttovaluethepeopleyoudo
know,andtoappreciateyourself.
Askyourtravelagentabout
holidayswhereyoucanjoin
like-minded,singlepeople.And
justbecauseyourfriendshave
partnersdoesn’tmeantheywant
toloseoutongirls’nightsand
you’vemorechanceofmeeting
someone when out with friends.
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