APRIL 2020 PSYCHOLOGIES MAGAZINE 23Lorien: Is there anything else we’ve learned you’d like to share?
Sa ron: It’s best if children can speak of any abuse as soon after
the event as possible, or it can be buried; that abusers normalise
abuse to make victims feel as if they are the strange ones for not
wanting to comply; that when someone says ‘don’t tell anybody’,
that is precisely when you have to tell somebody; and to
encourage kids to go with their instinct because, usually, that
will be telling them exactly what to do.
Lorien: Do you think people in the public eye have a
responsibility to raise awareness and facilitate change?
Sa ron: I love a romcom as much as the next person but I
feel strongly that we’re only on the planet for a short time. I feel
mortal and it is important to do things that make a di erence. My
mum bought me a brilliant diary for Christmas. It’s an activist’s
journal called ‘Arise and Shine’. You mark out your year and what
you’re going to do to bring about change. I love it – it’s galvanising.
Lorien: What’s your next plan of action?
Sa ron: I am joining Jane Fonda in Los Angeles for the launch
of Fire Drill Fridays to raise awareness about the climate crisis.
That – and driving my family crazy by putting o all the lights!
Sa ron Burrows is currently starring in ‘You’ on Netfl ix
How to get involved
THE FILM: ‘Everything I Ever Wanted
To Tell My Daughter About Men’
Lorien Haynes’ fi lm explores the damaging
repercussions of sexual assault on a woman’s
relationships. Directors include Sa ron
Burrows, Tara Fitzgerald, Sienna Guillory,
Jodhi May, Maryam d’Abo and Susannah
Harker. The fi lm supports RISE, founded
by Noble Prize nominee Amanda Nguyen.
RISE legislates for survivors and took
the international Survivors Bill of Rights to the
United Nations this year. Support the project
by donating, and posting the campaign video,
‘I’m A Survivor’. For more about the fi lm and
RISE, see tellmydaughter.com and risenow.us
●The rehearsed reading of Everything
I Ever Wanted To Tell My Daughter About Men
is at Shakespeare’s Globe on 20 February.
Directed by Tara Fitzgerald and starring Jason
Isaacs and James Purefoy, it will raise money
for RISE and The Circle – Women Empowering
Women. There will be an online auction of
props and vintage phones, recommissioned
by British artists, to raise funds for 24-hour
helplines on tellmydaughter.com; thecircle.ngo
Saffron Burrows will appear at the reading. Get tickets at
shakespearesglobe.com/whats-on/everything-i-ever-wantedDo you need help?
‘As a survivor myself,' says Lorien Haynes,
‘I urge people to get assistance. If you
get to a point where anxiety is a ecting
your day-to-day life, the way you parent or your
ability to do your job, you must do something.
It’s not an admission of defeat. How the hell
are we supposed to know how to navigate
these complex emotional situations?’Contacts
●To fi nd a therapist, contact the UK Council
for Psychotherapy at psychotherapy.org.uk
●For all: Rape Crisis; 0808 802 9999
●For children at risk: National Society for the
Prevention of Cruelty to Children (NSPCC);
0808 800 5000
●For adult survivors of abuse: National
Association for People Abused in Childhood
(NAPAC); 0808 801 0331
●For all: Samaritans; 116 123TOP Writer Lorien Haynes with director Sa ron Burrows and actor
Richard Wilson, who stars in Everything I Ever Wanted To Tell My
Daughter About Men. ABOVE Burrows wears her director’s hat on set