NeverAfiectFriendlinessand
Intimacy
withYourMaster.Hedoes
notwantafriendfora
subordinate,
hewantsasubordinate.Never
ap-
proach
himinan
easy,friendlyway,
oractasif
you
areonthebestof
ten'ns—thatishis
prerogative.
Ifhechoosestodealwith
you
onthis
level,
assume
a
wary
nhumminess.
Otherwiseerr
in
the
opposite
direction,
and
makethedistancebetween
you
clear.
NeverCriticizeThoseAboveYou
Directly.
This
may
seem
obvious,
butthereareoftentimeswhensomesortofcriticismis
necessary—tosay
nothing,
orto
give
no
advice,
would
openyou
torisksofanothersort.You
must
learn,however,
tocouch
your
adviceandcriticismas
indirectly
andas
politely
as
possible.
Think
twice,
orthree
times,
before
deciding
you
have
madethem
sufficiently
circuitous.Erronthesideof
subtlety
and
gentleness.
Be
Frugal
in
Asking
ThoseAboveYouforFavors.
Nothing
imitatesa
mastermorethan
having
to
reject
someone’s
request
Itstirs
upguilt
and
resentment.Askforfavorsas
rarely
as
possible,
andknowwhento
stop.
Ratherthan
making
yourself
the
supplicant,
itis
always
bettertoearn
your
favors,
sothattherulerbestowsthem
willingly.
Most
important:
Donotask
forfavorsonanother
person’s
behalf,
leastofallafriend’s.
Never
joke
About
Appearances
orTaste.A
lively
witandahumorous
disposition
areessential
qualifies
fora
good
courtier,
andtherearetimes
when
vulgarity
is
appropriate
and
engaging.
Butavoid
any
kindof
joke
about
appearance
or
taste,
two
highly
sensitive
areas,
especially
withthose
above
you.
Donoteven
try
itwhen
you
are
away
fromthem.Youwill
dig
your
own
grave.
DoNotBetheCourt
Cynic.
Express
admirationforthe
good
workof
others.If
youconstantly
criticize
yourequals
orsubordinatessome
of
that
criticism
willruboffon
you,hovering
over
you
like
a
gray
cloudwherever
you
go.People
will
groan
ateachnew
cynical
comment,
and
you
willirn'~
tatethem.
Byexpressing
modestadmirationforother
people’s
achieve-
ments,
youparadoxically
callattentionto
your
own.The
ability
to
express
wonderand
amazement,
andseemlike
you
mean
it,
isarareand
dying
tal-
ent,
butone
still
greatly
valued.
BeSelf-observant. Themirrorisamiraculous
invention;
withoutit
you
wouldcommit
great
sins
againstbeauty
anddecorum.Youalsoneedamir-
rorfor
your
actions.Thiscansometimescomefrom
other
peopletelling
you
what
they
seein
you,
butthatisnotthemost
trustworthy
method:Ybu
mustbethe
mirror,
trainingyour
mindto
try
tosee
yourself
asotherssee
you.
Are
youacting
too
obsequious?
Are
youtrying
toohardto
please?
Do
you
seem
desperate
for
attention,
giving
the
impression
that
you
areonthe
decline?Beobservantabout
yourself
and
you
willavoidamountainof
blunders.
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