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Once both Georgia and Henry analyzed their working models, they started
viewing their situation differently. Henry realized that by ignoring his
wife’s needs and ridiculing her dependency, he was only making matters
worse and causing unhappiness in the relationship. Georgia realized that by
using protest behavior she was actually distancing Henry instead of making
him want to be there for her, as she assumed. When they sat down and
talked about this recurrent issue, they were both better prepared. Henry said
that although he did think about her during the day, he was so busy that he
just didn’t have time to stop and call. It was reassuring for Georgia to hear
that Henry often thought about her when they were apart. She also
understood his busy schedule. She just knew that she needed to feel more
connected throughout the day.
Then they found a cool solution: Henry asked if it would be okay to send
her a prewritten text message whenever he thought about her. It would only