ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
We are grateful to many people for helping us during the writing of this
book. First and foremost, we thank our families for their support. We also
extend a very special thanks to Nancy Doherty for her outstanding editorial
work and unending encouragement. She is truly an exceptional person!
We’re grateful to our agent, Stephanie Kip-Rostan, for her help and for
introducing us to Sara Carder, our editor at Tarcher, who “got” the book
when it was just an outline. Sara’s insight and vision have been invaluable.
We thank the entire Tarcher team for the great work they’ve done. In
addition, we would like to give special thanks Eddie Sarfaty, Jezra Kaye,
Jill Marsal, Giles Anderson, and Smriti Rao. Thanks to Ellen Landau and
Lena Verdeli for their valuable comments on parts of the manuscript. Many
thanks to Tziporah Kassachkoff, Donald Chesnut, Robert Risko, David
Sherman, Jesse Short, Guy Kettelhack, Alexander Levin, Arielle Eckstut,
Christopher Gustafson, Oren Tatcher, Dave Shamir, Amnon Yekutieli,
Christopher Bergland, Don Summa, Blanche Mackey, Leila Livingston,
Michal Malachi Cohen, Adi Segal, and Margaret and Michael Korda.
We want to acknowledge the volunteers who shared their intimate
experiences and personal thoughts with us. We also thank those who took
our Applied Adult Attachment questionnaires and gave us feedback on the
beta version. Each and every person taught us something useful.
Writing this book would have been impossible without the rich legacy of
innovative attachment research upon which we drew. We’re forever
indebted to the researchers who made groundbreaking discoveries in this
field. They introduced us to a different—and ingenious—way of viewing
relationships.
From Rachel
I thank the entire team at the Modiin Educational Psychology Service,
where I have worked for the past four years. Their knowledge, insight, and
collective wisdom have allowed me to become a better psychologist—as
both a therapist and a diagnostician. Working in this supportive and