risk-taking
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role model, for your partner
royal treatment
of partner (secure attachment style)
treated like “the enemy” v.
Schaefer, Hillary
score-keeping, as protest behavior
scoring key: partner’s attachment style
scoring key: your attachment style
script, of your message, topic
secret-keeping, for sense of independence
secure attachment style
anxious style’s response to
babies’
buffering effect of
conflict busting
effective communication for
finding right partner for
it’s about your partner’s comfort, not yours
mental flexibility of
partner soothed by
recognition of warning signs
as “super-mates” of evolution
tapping into
when threats go undetected
secure base
secure principles, for conflict busting
secure principles, for making conflict work
security, as goal for both partners
anxious-avoidant trap v.
self-esteem