THE LAW OF LARGE NUMBERS—WHY YOU ARE MORE
LIKELY TO MEET AVOIDANTS WHEN YOU GO OUT ON
A DATE
There is one last reason you will probably meet and date a fair share of
avoidant people. Consider the following three facts:
- People with an avoidant attachment style tend to end their
relationships more frequently. One study found that of individuals
who entered a new marriage following a divorce, the avoidant ones
were more likely to divorce again. They also suppress loving
emotions and therefore “get over” partners very quickly so they can
start dating again almost immediately. Conclusion: Avoidants are in
the dating pool more frequently and for longer periods of time. - People with a secure attachment style usually don’t go through many
partners before they find one that they happily settle down with.
Once things click, they form a long-lasting, committed relationship.