Little White Lies - 03.2020 - 04.2020

And then leave the stage

The Laura Dern approach

But I get so many emails from

young female critics who say they

don’t feel they belong in the industry

but to answer your question, I’ve always said

it’s so important to surround yourself with people

who make you feel like you belong

Which is easier said than done, admittedly

Wait can I add my caveat

There that’s my caveat

So it’s important to surround yourself with

people who make you feel like you belong

BUT the problem with that is that a lot of the

time these people are also your competitors

for jobs, and that can lead to all sorts of

feelings of inadequacy and jealousy

Ooh

If it ain't broke In my case, when I entered the industry I –

without even thinking about it, by pure instinct –

tried to placate the usually male gatekeepers at

all costs. It felt like the obvious thing you had to

do to be here. But over time I’ve seen that that

ain’t it, and now the people who support me,

and who make me feel like I belong, are those

full of challenge (like your good self). I myself

feel full of challenge, but a consequence of this

is seismic disillusionment. Nothing and no one

is what I thought it was. So – on the one hand

• it feels amazing to be with allies. But – on the
  other – it’s like, ‘oh shit, look how much there
  is to sort out. It would have been sooooo much
  less work to stay asleep’

May I first chuck my two cents into the ring

re the radical consequences of surrounding

yourself with allies?

And the despair spiral comes when you watch

the non-eyelid batters go about their careers

with comparative ease

Or so it seems

Maybe it isn’t so simple for anyone idk

Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Okay okay okay I have a lot to say on this

This caveat is a doozy, and you better believe

that we will be circling back to it

YES 100% ABSOLUTELY

You can

Fuckin preach

After dropping the mic

Of course!

Oh it’s true, it’s so true

And you see it time and time

again, even beyond film. It’s just

easier, isn’t it, to not bat an eyelid

I think it’s definitely easier for some

than others. And you do worry about

making life harder for yourself

Right. The easy and beneficial thing to

do are rarely the same

042 The Promising Young Woman Issue