note, just FYIRegards, Dan in the corner. Hes like my own private West
Coast clipping service.
Try it. Think of the money youll save on greeting cards. A relevant
clipping is the big winners way of saying, Im thinking of you and your
interests.
How to Make Em Feel Your Admiration Just Slipped Out
Heres yet another caress for someones ego. Dont give a blatant
compliment. Merely imply something magnificent about your coversation
partner. Several months ago, I was visiting an old friend in Denver whom I
hadnt seen in a long time. When he came to my hotel to pick me up, he
said, Hello, Leil, how are you? Then he paused, looked at me, and said,
Youve obviously been well. Wow, I felt terrific. He implied I looked good
and that made my evening.
Guess the Good Lord decided I shouldnt have too swollen a head,
however, because later that evening, after my friend dropped me off, I got
into the hotel elevator. A maintenance man entered at the third floor. He
smiled at me. I smiled back. He looked at me again and said, Gosh, maam,
was you a model? [Oh, man, was I feeling on top of the world now!]...
when you was young? he continued.
CRASH! Why couldnt he have zipped his lip before the zinger? I loved
the implication in the first part of his comment. But the second implied I
was now an old lady. Ruined my next day. Heck, his unintentional low blow
ruined my week. In fact I still feel wretched about it.
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You have to be careful of unintentional bad implications. If, visiting a
new city, you stop someone on the street and say, Excuse me, could you tell
me if there are any fine dining restaurants nearby? you are implying the
passerby is a person of taste. If, however, you ask that same passerby, Hey,
know any down and dirty bars in this burg? your implication is entirely
different. Find a way to imply magnificent qualities of those you wish to
indrectly compliment.
Technique #53
Implied Magnificence
Throw a few comments into your conversation that presuppose
something positive about the person youre talking with. But be careful.
Dont blow it like the welintentioned maintenance man. Or the southern boy
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