Become an undercover complimenter. Stealthily sneak praise into the
parenthetical part of your sentence.
Just dont try to quiz anyone later on your main point. The joyful jolt of
your accidental adulation strikes them temporarily deaf to anything that
follows.
How to Make Em Never Forget You with a Killer Compliment
Would you like to have a little trick up your sleeve potent enough to
kick start commerce, ignite a friendship or even a love affair? Ill give you
one, but only if you heed its warning label. You must register your tongue
as a lethal weapon once youve mastered the following technique. Its called
the Killer Compliment.
It was born one night some years ago after my then-roommate,
Christine, and I had just returned home from a holiday party. As we were
taking off our coats, she had a silly smile on her face and a faraway look in
her eye.
Christine, are you OK? I asked. Oh yes, she purred. Im going to go out
with that man. Man? What man? Oh, you know, she said, chastising me for
not knowing, the
one who told me I had beautiful teeth. Teeth!
That night I happened to walk by the bathroom door as Christine was
getting ready for bed. I saw her grinning at herself in the mirror, tilting her
head from side to side, and brushing each individual tooth. All the while she
kept her eyes glued to the miror, inspecting each one for the beauty her new
admirer comented on. I realized the fellow who had given Christine the
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unusual compliment had made her dayand had made a killer impression
on her. Thus the Killer Compliment came into being. What is the Killer
Compliment? It is commenting on some very personal and specific quality
you spot in someone. A Killer Compliment is not I like your tie or Youre a
very nice person. (The first is not personal enough and the second is not
specific enough.) A Killer Compliment is more like What exquisite eyes
you have, (very specific) or You have a wonderful air of honesty
about you, (very personal). Because delivering your first Killer
Compliment is difficult, I
trick my seminar participants into pulling it off. About midway through
the program, Ill ask them to close their eyes and think about a partner they
had in an earlier exercise. Then I say, Now recall one attractive physical
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