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a few buddies and starts chatting away with them.
Chewing the nibbles on his plate and the fat with his friends, he
occasionally looks around the room to see who might be new and fun to
talk to. Hes hoping several attractive and interesting people at the party will
spot him and come over to talk.
Whats wrong with Charlies approach? Everything, if Chalie wants to
make the party productive. Lets start with the aveage party goers first
mistakegetting some refreshments and a drink right off the bat.
People mingling at a party make judgments, often subcoscious, about
whom they are going to approach. Have you ever lived on a farm? Or had a
dog or a cat? Then you know you never disturb animals when they are
eating. Likewise, when a human animal is eating, other human animals do
not feel comfortable advancing. If party goers eyes scan the crowd and see
you with the feed bag on, they pass right over you. Subconsciously theyre
saying to themselves, Let the hungry hound chow down and
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maybe well talk later. Later never comes because they wind up making
friends with someone else whose mouth wasnt full.
Politicians always eat before they come to the party. They know theyd
need a circus jugglers talent to shake hands, exchange business cards, hold
a drink, and stuff crackers and cheese into their mouthsall with just two
hands.
Technique #71
Munching or Mingling
Politicians want to be eyeball to eyeball and belly to belly with their
constituents. Like any big winner well versed in the science of proxemics
and spatial relationships, they know any object except their belt buckle has
the effect of a brick wall between two people. Therefore they never hold
food or drink at a party.
Come to munch or come to mingle. But do not expect to do both. Like a
good politician, chow down before you come.
How to Make an Unforgettable Entrance
Loretta Young makes television history when she appears at the head of
her immense staircase and surveys the set. Then she swoops down to start
the show.