How_to_Talk_to_Anyone_92_Little_Tricks_for_Big_Success_in_Relationships

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get his nose rubbed into the ground. He simply disqualifies hiself to
bark in the big league.
Thats what happened to my girlfriend Laura, who had deveoped the
healthy milkshake. (Remember her from Instant Replay?) When we last left
Laura, she was blowing her chances with Fred, the top banana of a
supermarket chain, by grilling him for details of his mailing address,
complaining her pen was out of ink, maing him wait while she got another,
writing numbers down wrong, ad nauseam.
I didnt tell you the worst part. After Fred was generous enough to invite
Laura to send him samples of her health shake, she dropped another bomb
by asking him which shipping service she should use. He must have said
FedEx because I heard Laura say, Well, my milkshake needs to stay
refrigerated. Does FedEx have refrigerated trucks?
At this point I knew she had strangled the deal by her own phone chord.
She shouldnt nudge Supermarket Czar with dinky shipping details. In fact,
Laura should be so grateful, she should personally deliver the drink the next
dayrolling it all the way to his supermarket with her nose if need be. Laura
was obviously not aware of The Great Scorecard in the Sky. That day the
tally was Fred everything, Laura nothing.
Big winnersbefore putting pen to paper, fingers to keboard, mouth to
phone, or hand to someone elses to shake it do a quick calculation. They
ask themselves Who has the most to benefit from this relationship? What
has each of us done recently that demands deference from the other? And
what can I do to even the score?
Friends Keep Tabs Too
The Great Scorecard in the Sky is not just bobbing over busnesspeople.
If family members and friends look carefully over their
loved ones heads, theyll spot it. And, like an over-the-counter stock, it
goes up or down every day. When you mess up, you have to even your
score by doing more for the one who didnt. To keep love alive, keep your
eye on The Great Scorecard in the Sky.
Several months ago, I met a nice chap named Charles at a covention.
We started discussing our favorite foods. His was hommade linguine with
pesto sauce. I liked Charles and I make a mean pesto sauce. The remarkable
coincidence of these two elements emboldened me to invite him to dinner at
my place. Great, he said. We set it for seven-thirty the following Tuesday.

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