Ifarelationshipisnew,
you’reoftenfacedwiththis
dilemma.Howmuchofyour
realselfdoyouwantto
revealwithoutscaringhim
away?
Theanswer:Just
enough.Soundshardto
grasp?That’sbecauseitis
difficulttoperfect.
Herearesomeideasof
whatthatmeans.
Ifyouhaveloud
laughter,laughasloudas
youneedto,butcutitshort
atsnortingliquidoutofyour
nose,girls!
Andifyouhavea
differentopinion,don’thold
itback.Expressitandown
it,butdon’tgetintoapetty
argument.
Indulgeinthatpieceof
cakeatdinnerbecauseyou
(really)deserveit.Butdon’t
stuffitinyourfacelikea
stress-eater.
Youcan’tbethat“safe
genericgirl”because
nobodywantstodatethat
“safegenericgirl”.
Youneedtobeenough
ofyoutoshowhow
awesomelyidiosyncratic
andbeautifullyuniqueyou
are–yetnottoomuchof
youthatcanbeannoyingto
people.
Inshort,headouton
thatdatewithconfidence
andshowoffyourlikeable
personalitythatwillwin
himover.
Now,ifthatdoesn’t
work,don’tfret.That
personisn’trightforyou
anyway.Sogetoutthere
andbeyourbestself.
Takenote:Youcan
alwaysintroducethemto
yourworstselfoncethey’re
livingwithyouandtrapped
withacoupleofkids.I’veneverbelieved
inloveatfirstsight
untilImettwoguys
inthesameweek:one
Igottoknowatabar,
andtheotherisanew
colleague.Arethese
feelingsrealformeto
actonit?
You’veneverbeeninlove
beforebutyoufellinlove
twice–allinaweek?
Didyouchangeyour
medicationorchange
thebrandofyourcoffee
bean?
Ofcoursethefeelings
arereal!Thatis,theyare
realenoughfor
youtobatyour
eyelashesand
flirtrelentlessly
withbothofthem
untilyouendup
onadatewithone
ofthem,orboth.
Preferablynotat
thesametime.
Remember,
beingstruckby
Cupidtwicewith
twodifferent
guysdoesn’t
makeyouafloozy.
Gettingdeepinto
arelationship
withtwoguysin
thesameweekor
sametimedoes.
Soyou’regood.Isawpictures
ofoneofmy
girlfriendson
socialmedia,
hangingoutPHOTOSEVERETTCOLLECTION&
123RFHaveanyquestionsaboutmenandtheirromanticallyobtuseways?
[email protected],followhimonTwitter(@bigsmilenoteeth)andlikehisFacebookpageatwww.facebook.com/bigsmilenoteeth.Got arelationship
problem?JasonGodfrey
ourresidentguy expert,
ishere tohelp.
withmyhubbyandhis
friendsinposesI’m
reallynotcomfortable
with.ShouldIstart
showingupatthese
partiestostakemy
claim,Jay?
AnEasternEuropean
friendtoldmethatheraunt
andunclehadcelebrated
70 yearsofmarriage,and
sheaskedtheelderlylady
whatthesecrettotheir
longevitywas.
Heranswer:“I’mnot
friendswithanyonewho
wantstosleepwithmy
husband.”Andfromwhatyou’ve
said,itsortof,kindof
soundslikeasituation
wherethisgirlfriendof
yoursmaywanttohook
upwithyourman.
Theproblemwith
girlswhowanttohookup
withanywoman’sman
isthattheyplaythelong
game.They’reinitfor
yearsandyears,planting
theseedofinfidelity.You
shoulddefinitelyhavea
girl-to-girltalkoratleast
showupatacoupleof
thesegatheringstolether
know:Themanisyours.“Hi,I’m
hisshadow.
He’smine–
forever.”THEREAL
ORFAKE
ME?HW ASK JAY
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