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The Thread

Readers respond to the 3.22.2019 issue.

RE: THE WING
Amanda Hess reported on the co-working
space’s service staff.

Sisterhood, where women treat each
other fairly and respectfully, has long
been thought of as a utopia. This article
illustrates that very nicely. The day that
women like the C.E.O. and members of
the Wing clubs change their behavior
from entitlement to support of the less
privileged, hard-working women will be
the day that sisterhood fi nally arrives.
Lizzy, E.U.

I want to thank Amanda Hess for this
fascinating feature on The Wing. The
merchandising of feminism has nothing
to do with equal pay and equal rights for
women. This article is a useful remind-
er to all of us, regardless of sex, that the
issues for women are not paint color or
beauty products, but the lack of an E.R.A.
in our Constitution and the current chal-
lenge facing women’s abortion rights.
Rachel Kaplan, Paris, France

RE: LETTER OF RECOMMENDATION
Christian Wiman wrote an appreciation
of gy ms.

I so laughed out loud with Christian
Wiman. Since childhood, I, too, have used
gyms to escape family stress, social stress
and work stress. Thank you, thank you,
thank you for describing the self-forgive-
ness we share in there, and for the poetry
of tearing ‘‘a spiritual tendon’’ when a fel-
low gym-goer shattered the peace with a
question about our current leader.
Nadine Maleski, Somerville, N.J.

creative nonfi ction at its most powerful.
Georgianna de la Torre, San Francisco

Sarah Viren is a wonderfully creative non-
fi ction writer. I was a bit spellbound read-
ing this. I look forward to more stories of
real people from her; stories written from
her curiosity and interest and care regard-
ing her subject, not from the pain and fear
and shock she endured to write this one.
Augusta, New York

I was riveted reading Sarah Viren’s truth.
I am so very sorry she had to endure the
harassment and I am equally glad that she
and Marta worked together to uncover
the facts. Of course, you know there is a
movie script here.
Kim, Port Charlotte, Fla.

I was in a dark mood already about the
state of the world, but then after reading
how Title IX, a federal law, was used to
maliciously attack two honorable pro-
fessors made it even darker. The article
was vividly written by Sarah Viren, and
the roller-coaster ride she and her wife
had to endure to clear their good names
was outrageous! Her compelling and bril-
liant writing demonstrates why she was
off ered her dream job; but still, the actual
outcome was such a travesty! As someone
from one of the fi rst classes of female stu-
dent-athletes to receive an athletic schol-
arship (a wildly novel idea in the 1970s),
I am one of the millions of women who
fought for Title IX and benefi ted from it.
I have always pointed to Title IX as a law
that worked as intended. This article is
a chance for Title IX administrators to
learn how they might fi x this part of it.
M.E. Schutten, Portland, Ore.

Send your thoughts to [email protected].

‘I was
delighted to
learn that
ultimately truth
triumphed.’

THE STORY,
ON TWITTER
Very unbiased
view of the man
and his values.
@hummuslite

I started going to the gym in my mid-
20s. I am now 69 and still go to the gym,
but I gave up ‘‘putting on muscle’’ and
‘‘getting a body’’ a long time ago. Thanks,
Christian Wiman, for explaining to me
why I continue to go even now. The
experience of oblivion and anonymity
is a very powerful pull.
Fred Fejes, Fort Lauderdale, Fla.

RE: THE ACCUSATION
Sarah Viren wrote about the false allegations
of sexual harassment against her wife, and
the path to proving their innocence.

I was so emotionally moved by the article
written by Sarah Viren I was compelled
to refl ect on the toxic dangers of social
media. I have been a practicing attor-
ney for 60 years, where truth matters.
My initial response is to commend the
author for an articulate and beautifully
composed article. Although the author
and her wife suff ered greatly throughout
their ordeal, I was delighted to learn that
ultimately truth triumphed.
Barry R. Mandelbaum, New Jersey

Jaw-dropping. Thank you, not just for
sharing this story, but for giving it the
depth of context it deserves. The inter-
nal panic of not being believed (and not
knowing what to believe) is conveyed
here with alarming clarity.
Dave, Youngstown, Ohio

Thank you for this compelling and mas-
terfully written essay. I found the layers
of the narrative fascinating — the stark
bureaucracy against the hopes and dreams
of a married couple at midlife. The con-
fl icting stories told by people whose lives
are dedicated to writing stories. This is
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