2020-06-01_Mother_&_Baby

(Nancy Kaufman) #1

BEHAVIOUR


I need to spend
a night away

from my three-


month-old. How can


I make this easier


for both of us?


Lily Johnson,


Newcastle


Ideally, choose to leave your
baby with someone he knows
and that you trust, such as a
close relative, a friend or a
babysitter. Suggest they come
to you, as being in familiar
surroundings will help your
baby feel more secure. If you
are breastfeeding, prepare
pumped milk in advance so
you are confident you have
enough. Also, make sure your
sitter knows your baby’s
routine in terms of eating,
napping, and playing. GVL


Q


My 18-month-old often has tantrums about putting his
socks and shoes on. I can’t let him go barefoot all the
time, so what should I do?

Lucinda Cook, Oxford


It’s a tough time for any parents, but
tantrums are developmentally normal and
healthy in 18-month-olds. It is important to
think about triggers and what may be at the
root of these tantrums, as this will determine
how you respond. Is your son doing this to
exert control over you and push boundaries?
Are there any issues with his socks and
shoes in terms of comfort or dislike of the
texture and fabrics? Does he want to put his
socks and shoes on by himself?
Toddlers are beginning to seek more
independence and autonomy at this stage,
but can feel incredibly frustrated when they
cannot accomplish tasks alone. Ask yourself
whether this is a battle worth fighting right
now and are you going anywhere where
shoes are really important to wear? Perhaps
you could consider letting him go in his
buggy without his socks and shoes on, but

tell him that you cannot let him walk around
barefoot because he might get glass or
sharp things in his feet and you have to keep
him safe. If he’s having an ‘I want to do it
myself tantrum’, perhaps slip the sock
halfway onto his foot and offer lots of praise
as he pulls it the rest of the way. You could
also consider buying some character socks
and shoes, which are appealing and fun, to
encourage him to put them on. GVL

Q


When my two-year-old is angry, she


often pulls hair, both mine and her


own.HowcanI stopher?


PROMOTION


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Georgina Benyon, Guildford

Be reassured that this is a
normal phase and she will
eventually grow out of it.
Your two-year-old finds it
difficult to manage her
impulses, and has very
little control when she
feels angry or frustrated.
However, it is important
that she learns where the
boundaries lie and that
aggressive behaviour
towards you or herself
s definitely not OK.
Be calm and consistent
and say gently but firmly:
No pulling hair. Pulling hair
hurts. We touch gently.’
ake her hand and stroke
t gently over your hair
and her hair to model the
bestway. Provide lots
ofpraise whenever you
seeherbeing gentle.
Separate the hair pulling

behaviour from your love
for her. Remember to keep
providing lots of love and

affection, while making it
clear that it is behaviour
you don’t like. GVL

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