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Damian Whitworth


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I live alone. I am
financially OK, but
alcohol has had a
strong hold on me for
decades. I have had
several episodes,

including the most dramatic one


when I turned yellow and was


itching. My stomach had to be


relieved of litres of yellow stuff. After


the last episode in the hospital —


which was a week of detox — the


staff were wonderful. I just don’t


understand why the first thing I did


was to go to a shop and buy booze.


Chris


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NN


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I am sorry to hear how
unwell you’ve been,
which, as you clearly
understand, is related
to your drinking and
from what you

describe sounds extremely serious for


your health. You managed a detox,


which is an achievement, and your


body clearly needed that rest from


alcohol. However, that you left rehab


and went straight out to buy alcohol


suggests that you need further


intensive treatment to enable you to


remain sober and not relapse.


Stopping harmful behaviour is the


first part of behavioural change, and


many would say it is the easiest part.


As many relapsed compulsive eaters,


smokers, drug users, gamblers and so


on would attest, stopping the addictive


behaviour can be achieved for short


periods (and is a success in itself), but


maintaining the cessation of the


behaviour is a whole other challenge


and one that requires intensive and


continuing support.


From what you describe it sounds


as if you have alcohol-related liver


disease, where the liver becomes


inflamed and swollen after years of


excessive drinking. This can cause


scarring of the liver, which is called


cirrhosis, complications of which are


portal hypertension and (less


commonly) alcoholic hepatitis,


which can lead to a build-up of


fluid, called ascites, in the abdomen


and around the intestines. This


may need to be drained and there is


the risk of infected fluid, which can


cause an increased risk of kidney


failure and death.


Another complication is peritonitis,


which is an infection of the inner


stomach lining where the pus-filled


swellings (abscesses) need to be


drained with a needle under local


anaesthetic; this is also life-


threatening. See: tinyurl.com/y36s5lxh.


Cirrhosis, the final stage of liver


disease, causes 5 per cent of all deaths


globally and is the third leading cause


of premature death in the UK, killing


40 people a day, an increase of 400


per cent since 1970. This will seem


shocking and I’m surprised you


haven’t been given sufficient support


to understand fully how seriously your


drinking has affected your health and


the significant risks you take every


time you drink. However, 90 per cent


of liver disease is preventable, and it


isn’t too late for you to tackle your


drinking, find treatment and support


to become sober (for life) and improve
your health and wellbeing.
Reversing alcohol use disorder
(AUD) takes more than willpower
bcause there are many factors beyond
habit that underpin the need to drink.
Outside the addictive qualities of
alcohol, where regular drinking is
needed to stop physical withdrawal,
there are also significant psychological
and emotional factors that take longer
to understand and address.
Alcohol, like other drugs, numbs
pain and narcotises us from the reality
of life and painful memories. Given
the unhelpful judgment that people
who struggle with alcohol often
receive, it is important to recognise
that AUD is a chronic brain disease
that affects the reward system, causing
serious harm in a number of ways,
including compulsive behaviour
around alcohol, increased alcohol
abuse, high-risk behaviours while
intoxicated and death.
For many, alcohol abuse becomes
an automatic part of lifestyles, so
evidence-based treatments, which
focus on detoxing from the drug and
changing behaviour via therapeutic
rehabilitation programmes, show good
outcomes. After detox you had a lapse
(the first time you walked into a shop
to buy alcohol after leaving hospital),
which I suspect turned quickly into a
full-blown relapse.
Relapse is a feature of many chronic
illnesses, but those with AUD can
struggle to look for continued support
because of the stigma associated with
their condition and the impact of guilt
and shame on self-esteem. Your
experience when you left the detox
is extremely common: it is estimated
that 40 to 60 per cent of people in
treatment for AUD will relapse. If you
had the other chronic illnesses you
would keep seeking professional
support to adjust lifestyle, provide
medication as necessary and enable
you to develop your own self-
management and relapse-
prevention skills. For those with
AUD, this also requires a
considered understanding and
processing of the underlying
psychological factors that
cause drinking: eg history,
present circumstances,
emotional states, mental-
health difficulties and
triggers to drinking.
If you have coped with life
by self-medicating with
alcohol, the challenge you
face is how to cope in
other, healthier ways. You
may be aware of this, but
feel helpless to know how
to do it, or you may be in
denial of the extent of
your drinking and the
serious health risks you
are taking every time you
drink. Given that alcohol
has been so present in
your daily life, living
without it might seem
impossible. Yet a well-
structured relapse-
prevention plan,
continuing therapeutic

My drinking has put me in hospital, but I


still can’t stop and I don’t understand why


support, networks of support from
those also in recovery and, if indicated,
medication to support your recovery
process can enable you to live a sober,
healthy and longer life.
I suggest that you talk to your GP
or alcohol dependency service about
going into an in-patient rehabilitation
service so that detox is accompanied
by the longer-term therapy you need
to prevent relapse. See also: the NHS
at tinyurl.com/yyzudkhd. If you can
self-fund, there are private facilities.
See: UK Rehab (tinyurl.com/
y48d2mjc) and rehab4addiction
(tinyurl.com/y2ffa9m7).
In rehabilitation you will receive
individual and group therapy to enable
you to understand your psychological
and emotional needs for alcohol and
look at other ways to meet those
needs. You will learn the signs of
relapse, understand your particular
triggers, practise new skills (such as
mindfulness, meditation, exercise and
regular peer support) and coping
mechanisms. A therapist will help you
to create a relapse-prevention plan
and daily schedules to support your
psychological wellbeing, including
sleep, diet, exercise and social contact
with those you trust to know your
challenges and to be there to support
you in a non-judgmental way.
While you look to arrange this I
advise you to join Alcoholics
Anonymous immediately and find
local groups that you can attend (in
person or online) every day, maybe
more than once a day. Here you will
find a non-judgmental community of
peer support and friendship, a 12-step
programme to work through and a
sponsor (a person also in recovery)
who will be available to contact when
you feel vulnerable or close to lapsing
(see alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk).
Also, Drinkline runs a free,
confidential helpline on 0300 123 1110.
For inspiration, read The Unexpected
Joy of Being Sober by Catherine
Gray and This Naked Mind
— Control Alcohol by
Annie Grace.
I hope your recent
hospital stay and the
removal of the pus in
your stomach lining has
underlined for you how
seriously you need to
address your alcohol
addiction. I hope your
lapse experience has
highlighted how much
you require intensive
in-patient support to
learn to live without
alcohol. This is all
possible and could
herald a brighter
future for you.
I believe that by
attending regular therapy,
making peer-support groups
part of your daily life, finding
new enjoyable activities that
don’t involve alcohol, getting
emotional support from friends,
and finding ways to manage stress
and avoiding triggers to drinking
you will be able to live a happy,
healthy and sober life. I wish you well.

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or the past few months
Stephen Fabes has
been on the front line
of the coronavirus
response, working in the
emergency department
of St Thomas’ Hospital in
London. Boris Johnson
may have missed a trick in not making
the doctor the poster boy for his new
health-through-cycling campaign.
His method involves cycling all day
every day for six years. After riding
more than 53,000 miles across Europe,
Africa, South and North America,
Australia and Asia and Europe (again),
you can expect to be a vision of
muscle and to have worn out 26 tyres,
16 chains and 12 sets of pedals.
At 29, when he set out on his world
trip, Fabes had a sense of time
“plunging away, a fear that I’d wake up
one morning with erectile dysfunction
or, worse, a passion for quilting and
jigsaws”, he writes in his new book
about his journey. “I needed more
of almost everything: more space,
more time, more risk.”
He says, as we talk by video call,
that there was no deep, psychological
reason for the expedition, although
there was “a slightly obsessive quality
to it”. Living frugally in London for
two years, he put aside enough to have
$10 a day for living on the road. After
three years the money ran out, and he
paid his way with travel journalism
and talks at international schools.
Everything he needed was crammed
into panniers on his touring bike, a
Santos Travelmaster. In the quest to
consume enough calories, he ditched
items of his medical kit and filled one
pannier with biscuits.
Fabes didn’t take a phone, but relied
on internet cafés to stay in contact
with his family and friends. He filled
and posted home 23 journals.
At first Fabes was concerned to find
that he was drawn to empty spaces on
the map, such as a roadless corner of
Ethiopia. Then he realised he had a
fascination with risk and sought out
moments of “sparkling fear”. He
writes: “I enjoyed living on the edge...
the sense of control drifting away.”
He cycled through lion country in
Botswana, dipped into war-torn
Afghanistan and cycled across a frozen
lake in Mongolia after opting to cross
the vast steppe in winter, where the
temperature dropped to minus 40C.
“I suppose it was quite an extreme
situation to put myself in,” he admits.
When he stayed in hostels they were
the grimmest, bed bug-ridden places,
or turned out to be brothels. Mostly he
camped. This could mean a Jordanian
clifftop, a Californian sea cave, or the
ramparts of a ruined Ottoman castle,
but also an Egyptian buffalo shed or
the verge of a Chinese highway that
turned out to be a makeshift latrine.

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