Most relationships are based on what you have in common with others.
Think about this: You meet a person, and immediately the two of you
compare your experiences, as if you both are checking to see whether your
neural networks and emotional memories are aligned. You say something
like this: “I know these ‘people.’ I am from this ‘place,’ and I lived in these
places at these different ‘times’ in my life. I went to this school and studied
this subject. I own and do these ‘things.’ And most important, I’ve had
these ‘experiences.’”
Then the other person responds: “I know those ‘people.’ I’ve lived in
those ‘places’ during those ‘times.’ I do these ‘things,’ too. I had those
same ‘experiences.’”
Thus, you can relate to each other. A relationship is then formed based on
neurochemical states of being, because if you share the same experiences,
you share the same emotions.
Think of emotions as “energy in motion.” If you share the same
emotions, you share the same energy. And just like two atoms of oxygen
that share an invisible field of energy beyond space and time in order to
bond together in a relationship to form air, you are bonded in an invisible
field of energy to every thing, person, and place in your external life. Bonds
between people are the strongest, though, because emotions hold the
strongest energy. As long as either party doesn’t change, things will be just
fine.
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