been locked in the trunk for 2,000 miles! For a lot of us, that’s exactly how
we’ve been feeling for a significant stretch of time.
Keep in mind that it’s not enough merely to notice how you’ve been
thinking, feeling, and behaving. Meditation requires you to be more active
than that. You also have to tell the truth about yourself. You have to come
clean and reveal what you’ve been hiding in that shadow part of the gap.
You have to drag those things out into the bright light of day. And when you
really see what you’ve been doing to yourself, you have to look at that mess
and say, This is no longer serving my best interests. This is no longer
serving me. This has never been loving to myself. Then you can make a
decision to be free.
From Victimization to Unexpected Abundance:
How One Woman Closed the Gap
One person who reaped the rewards of facing her life with the courage of
a quantum observer is Pamela, a participant in one of my seminars. Pamela
struggled financially because for two years, her unemployed ex-husband
hadn’t paid the mandated child support. Frustrated, angry, and feeling
victimized, she even reacted negatively to unrelated situations.
The meditation we did that day was about how the end product of any
experience is an emotion. Because so many of our experiences involve
family and friends, we share the resultant emotions with them. That’s
usually a good thing: bonds related to places we’ve been, things we’ve done
—even objects we’ve shared—can strengthen our connection with people.
But the flip side is that we also share the emotions associated with negative
experiences.
We bond energetically with one another in a place beyond time and
space. Because we are entangled with others (to use quantum terms) and
frequently bond through survival-oriented emotions, it is almost impossible
for us to change when we are still connected by negative experiences and
emotions. Thus, reality stays the same.
In Pamela’s case, her ex-husband’s anxiety, guilt, and feelings of
inferiority about not being able to support his children were interwoven into
the fabric of her state of being, along with her own emotions of