Is there a feeling that I experience—even struggle with—over
and over again, every day?
How would my closest friends and family describe me?
Is there something about myself that I hide from others?
What part of my personality do I need to work on
improving?
What is one thing I want to change about myself?Choose an Emotion to Unmemorize
Next, choose one of your afflictive emotional states and limited states of
mind (the following examples can help you get started)—one of the habits of
being yourself that you want to relinquish. Since memorized feelings condition
the body to be the mind, these self-limiting emotions are responsible for your
automatic thought processes, which create your attitudes, which influence your
limited beliefs (about self in relationship to everyone or everything), which
contribute to your personal perceptions. Every one of the emotions listed below
originates from the chemicals of survival, which strengthen the ego’s control.
Opportunity to Write
Pick one emotion that is a big part of who you are (your chosen
emotion may be one that’s not listed below) and that you want to
unmemorize. Remember that this word has meaning to you because it is
a feeling that is familiar to you. It is one aspect of the self that you want
to change. I recommend that you write down the emotion you came up
with, because you will be working with it throughout this and later
steps.Examples of survival emotions:
Insecurity Shame Sadness