Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

family trying to make it. The next thing he knows, the woman
who used to wear and do little things to keep it hot and spicy
isn’t interested in doing that little thing she did when the two
of them first got together. In fact, the sex has become unin-
spired; she’s coming in from work, where she was dressed up in
her nice skirt and heels and makeup and such, and she’s break-
ing down before she can get to the door good. And now, after
a long day at work, and even more work when she gets home,
she’s coming to bed in a head scarf and a T-shirt and is this close
to hiring a firing squad to take you out for even looking at her
with those bedroom eyes.
In other words, what’s back at the house has become ho-
hum—routine. And this man is missing the spark that used to
be there. You’ve changed. (He knows he’s changed, too, but
we’re not talking about him, we’re talking about you.) Perhaps
that comes, too, with a feeling that you don’t appreciate him
like you used to. The thank-yous come less frequently, there’s a
lot of arguing going on—turmoil seems to get up with you in
the morning and cuddle up with the two of you at night. And
your home just isn’t feeling like what he signed up for. And if
he can’t get what he signed up for back at the house, he’s more
likely to go out and find it somewhere else, because guess what?
He knows he can always go find it somewhere else, particularly
since...