Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

right order: God, family, education, and then business. And
their wives? They’ve become better wives in the process,
too—by trying to create a little bit of that magic they had when
their relationship was fresh and new. She might come home
from work and instead of kicking off those heels, keep them on
and whisper in his ear to meet her in the bedroom for a pre-
dinner snack. Or she might smile a little more, act a little bit
more happy, be a tad bit more spontaneous—appreciate her
man more, and show it, too.
This was certainly the story of one of my really good friends.
His wife found out about his woman on the side, and she left
him—went to her mother’s house for seven months and took
his son with her. Dude was miserable. I mean, he was losing
weight. We would go by to get him and say, “Let’s go out and
have a good time,” and he would tell us, “Eh, I don’t feel like
it.” We even offered to take him to see the woman he had on
the side, in hopes that at least getting some from her would
make him feel a little bit better, but he refused her, too. “I’m
through with that,” he insisted. “I lost my marriage, my boy is
gone—the people who mattered most to me are gone. And I
want them back.”
It took him a year and a half to get this woman back. I don’t
know what’s going on behind their closed doors, but I’ll tell
you one thing: she’s got the ideal husband now. Any married
man can look at him and see how to get it done. But two things
had to happen to him: first, he had to find out what was impor-