Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

Now this one is a multiple-part question that sizes up how a
man feels about a gamut of relationships—from how he feels
about his parents and kids to his connection with God. Each
answer will reveal a lot more about him—whether he’s serious
about commitment, the kind of household in which he was
raised, what kind of father and husband he might be, whether
he knows the Lord, all of that. And the only way you’ll find out
the answers to these questions is to ask. Do it before you kiss
this man, maybe even before you agree to go on a date with
him—this is a great phone conversation, for sure. And don’t be
shy or nervous about asking these questions, either, because
what are you supposed to be doing with this man if not talking
to him? If he has a problem talking about this right here, then
something’s wrong. Run.
First, find out how he feels about family. What are his views
on it? Does he want a family? How does he feel about children?
If you have a child, tell your man about him or her—it’s his
business to know, but more important, it’s your business to find
out if he sees himself being a father. If he doesn’t want kids and
you do, then you can stop all of this right now. (Please know
that if a man says he doesn’t want kids, he’s probably not going
to change his mind, regardless of the intensity of his feelings for
you.) Moreover, if he doesn’t like kids and you already have
them, where, exactly, is this relationship going?