Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

self, you’re automatically going to command that respect from
a man. Make him qualify for the benefits, and I guarantee you’ll
have a better man on your hands—and in your bed. And once
you’re satisfied he’s worthy of the benefits, you can pass it out
like sandwiches at a picnic.
Hold on, I know what you’re thinking: you’re thinking that
if he doesn’t get sex from you, he’ll go and get it somewhere
else, and you will have lost out on that one chance to get him
to be your man—or he’ll think you’re playing games if you
make him wait, and he’ll move on to the next woman who’s
willing to take him into her bed.
Wrong.
In fact, one of those mind tricks we’ve been playing on
women since the beginning of time is to convince you all that
waiting doesn’t matter, that giving it up early and quick is the
way to go. Listen to me: if we could convince you that you
should strip naked and get to it within the first five minutes of
our first meeting, we would. This is not a secret: men love and
want sex, and will try (within reason) to get it by any means
necessary.
But guess what? He. Can. Wait. Yes, of course you run the
risk of scaring him off, but isn’t the guy who sleeps with you
without any obligation to you, or consideration of your wants,
needs, and emotional well-being, the one you want to go away?
Isn’t reserving something that special for a man who earns it
more of a benefit to you? You have the power to make him wait—