One day is more than enough punishment for us if
we’re talking about some kind of argument. You’re
mad about something he said about the kids and you
don’t want to have sex tonight? Okay. But tomorrow,
if you’re still mad about the kids and he’s tapping you
on the shoulder and you’re shaking off his hand, that’s
a problem. Men are not going to hang in for that too
long. But we’ll go without longer if we violated your
trust in some kind of way and we need to gain back
your respect and trust. We understand that much.
I haven’t a clue—only gay men, or women who’ve
dated men on the down low, can answer that question
for you. I don’t fall into either of those categories.
If a man goes along with an “open relationship” or
he offers it, he’s doing so because you are not in his long-