term plans. He does not see a future with you. Both of
you can stop all this “We wanted some spice in the rela-
tionship” talk. When a man loves you, he’s not trying to
share you with anybody—period. When you find that
guy who’s willing, I will show you the guy who’s not in
love with you. We’re just not cut out that way.
Yes—it makes us uncomfortable. We think
you’re trying to dig deep into our soul when you
start trolling through our past and, possibly, passing
judgment on it. Still, you have the right to know
about a man’s past. Just don’t ask about it on the first
date, because you will not get an honest answer,
ever. He hasn’t even decided about how permanent
this thing between you is going to be—there’ll be
no need to reveal the soul. Don’t even waste your
time asking about his previous woman; all he’s go-
ing to claim is hurt, not what he may have done to
her. Give your relationship time, and he’ll reveal
what you need to know.