Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

the kids have what you all need. That is our role—our purpose.
Society has told us men for millennium that our primary function
is to make sure our families are set—whether we’re alive or dead,
the people we love need want for nothing. This is the very core
of manhood—to be the provider. That’s what it’s all about. (Okay,
there are a few other things; for example, how well you’re en-
dowed—and I’m not talking financially—and how well can you
provide—now, I am talking financially.) If a man is in a position
of being questioned about whether he’s able to provide, financially
and otherwise, for the ones he loves, you might as well drop-kick
his ego into an early grave. The more he can provide for his
woman and his kids, the bigger and more alive he feels. Sounds
simplistic, but that is the reality.
As a provider, a man pays the bills that have to be paid—the
rent, the heat and light bill, the car note; he buys groceries; he
pays school tuition; and he takes care of other household ex-
penditures. He will not spend his money on trifling things and
come to you with what’s left, and he will not selfishly give you
a little cut and take the rest for himself. And a man who truly
loves you would never make you ask for money for necessities—
he would make sure that you need and mostly want for noth-
ing, because every pat on the back he gets for bringing more
money into the house, every kiss he gets for handing over cash
for school clothes and supplies and toys, every bit of apprecia-
tion he gets for keeping the lights and cable on, boosts his prow-
ess as a man. That’s why, if he’s a real man, he will always put