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TRY THIS QUIZ TO FIND OUT WHETHER YOU WEAR
A GRUDGE WELL OR NEED TO LET IT GO
- You notice your best friend has
liked several posts on social media
by someone you loathe. Your friend
always claimed to dislike this
person, too. Do you:
a) End the friendship and cut them
out of your life.
b) Ask your friend if they lied about
sharing your dislike of this person.
c) Tell yourself they must have hit the
like button by mistake, or done it
in an ironic, not-really-liking way?
d) Continue with the friendship, say
nothing, and retain a secret grudge?- You’ve always praised your friend
enthusiastically whenever she’s
done something impressive. But
when you achieve something
amazing, she never enthuses,
merely saying: “I can see you put
a lot of effort in.” Do you:
a) Resolve never to praise her again.
b) Explain that her reaction was
hurtful and why.
c) Praise her even more fulsomely, in
order to lead by example, hoping she
takes the hint.
d) Pity her negative outlook and tell
yourself she hasn’t got away with
anything as you’ll never feel the same
about her again?- Which of these quotes appeals to
you most?
a) “I have a limit, and when you reach
it, I dismiss you from my life. Simple.”
b) “At the heart of all my anger, all
grudges, and all resentment, you’ll
always find a fear that hopes to
stay anonymous.”
c) “I don’t hold grudges. I remember
facts.”
d) “They say it’s good to let your
grudges go, but I don’t know, I’m
quite fond of my grudge, I tend to
it like a pet.”- You tell your friend Beatrice that
her sister Jane (also your friend)
has scratched your car and lied
about it to avoid paying for repairs.
Your friend reacts aggressively and
says, “It’s a rubbish car anyway.”
What do you do?
a) Beatrice and Jane are dead to you.
You banish them from your life.
b) Suspect Beatrice must have been
horrified to hear her own sister was
a lying car-scratcher and lashed out in
anger. Once she calms down, you’ll talk
to her again.
c) Decide Beatrice was only so mean
because she was upset herself.
You forgive her; she didn’t mean
to be cruel.
d) Make a mental note not to care so
much about either Beatrice or Jane, as
long as it doesn’t affect your wider
circle of friends.- You try to reserve a table at a
restaurant for 7pm. The owner says
they have two sittings, at 6pm or
8pm. Despite your best attempts, he
won’t budge. Do you:
a) Tell him you think he’s unreasonable
to put profit before customer’s wishes
and tell everyone you meet what
happened in the hope of putting
others off going there, too.
b) Suggest he reconsider his policy as
it’s not ideal for customers, then book
a table for 6pm or 8pm instead or go
somewhere else.
c) Decide that, actually, there are
advantages to going at 6pm – you’d
have time to see a movie afterwards.
All’s well that ends well!
d) Say nothing but silently resolve
to boycott the establishment in future
as a result.“When you do hold
g rudges, it ’s likely to be
after careful consideration”
THINK (^) | WELLBEING